I’m 25F, he’s 24M. We’ve been together 1.5 years and live together. I have a high libido and want sex most days. He rarely initiates and usually only wants it about once a week.
When I try to touch, cuddle, or kiss him to start things, he often gently pulls away or gets annoyed. Sometimes he even gets angry, which leaves me feeling guilty and rejected. I’m honestly tired of feeling unwanted and then having to wait until I’m alone to deal with the frustration.
Has anyone been in this situation? How do you handle such a big mismatch in libido? Is his irritation/anger a red flag?
I’ve tried talking to him calmly without blaming him. His response was basically:
“I just don’t want sex. What am I supposed to do? I feel uncomfortable when you want sex with me.”
I don’t know how to interpret that. I’m not trying to pressure him — I just want intimacy without feeling like I’m doing something wrong.