Hey everyone, I (23M) train at a new combat sports gym and there’s a girl there (21F) who I really like. I can’t tell whether she’s interested or if she’s just an outgoing, flirty person in general.
We’ve seen each other six times and talked for maybe 30 minutes in total. Spoke about things outside of the gym, and she shows some interest in my personal life too. We spoke very briefly about our delicate family situations. We also joke a bit with each other and I tease her.
She attends these classes and works at the gym reception too, lets me in for free and told me twice that I can message her before coming so she’ll let me in again. She also often offers me free coffee and snacks from reception.
She also added me to her instagram close friends. I noticed she sometimes re-watches my stories, and once messaged me to ask if I was going to a class later that week, a few hours after our message conversation had ended.
Besides handshake and small shoulder hug at end of sessions (everyone does them as respect), where she seems shy. Touch barrier still exists between us, I tried to break it but wasn’t confident and she left the conversation after, could be cause it was during the water break and we had to go back.
Here’s the confusing part: she’s very flirty with a lot of guys at the gym. She jokes around and touches my friend (who has a girlfriend). She has that naturally extroverted, social vibe that makes it hard to tell where the line is between friendliness and actual interest.
Today, before training, she invited me to go swimming with her and her friend (F) after the session. I didn’t really commit because I wasn’t sure if it was a friendly invite or something more. During the break, she brought it up again — basically inviting me twice.
Did I mess up by not going? And would you say she likes me back or does she see me as her friend and nothing more at this point? Im pretty sure she knows I like her.
Any advice would be highly appreciated