So we have been dating for about 7 months.
He had really bad trust issues and didn’t believe me most of the time and then just jumped to conclusions which made me drained. We had so many arguments. I was very calm though and tried to maintain peace and give him time because we all have our own issues.
Now,I’m a student and he has a job.He gives about 80% of his money to his parents but he lives with them so he basically doesnt have bills and groceries etc. I on the other hand don’t have a job and my mother supports me financially.
He sleeps over almost 5 days of the week and then 2 days at his parents. I cook for him, do laundry and everything. I pay for coffee dates sometimes little things he needs and he’s short on money. And i was okay with that(which is my fault). Basically he never paid for anything maybe once or twice for our food.
However, I believed that he would get on his feet since he’s very young.The emotional distress what what was getting me. Not feeling cared for,him being arrogant yet so protective of me. He showed me love then the other second he didn’t trust me. He was there for me through everything I’ve been through these months (bad family stuff).
But i felt like i needed some small gestures from time to time to feel loved.Like he could find some money here and there to help me. Or maybe just pick a flower or text me something nice. A card or something i don’t know.
This past month i got very frustrated and stopped being so patient with him. We started arguing and i was blunt with him and talked to him the way he talked to me. Then he started understanding after i had explained and told him thousands of times what he’s doing wrong and why he’s hurting me. I was tired of being blamed of things i didn’t do.
Then he started becoming caring way more,listening to me, complimenting me and all. But obviously didn’t pay for anything still like even 0,40€ bus tickets. Still I just knew he was
broke and felt so bad making a big deal over that.
My cousin told my aunt about this situation and I come from a really bad background of family matters when it comes to men who do nothing but stress u out,abuse u and the usuals. So my aunt,which is like my second mom got concerned and mad and lectured me for houuurssss. She told me i should raise my standards because im being treated bad and okay i know what she means but i wasn’t ready. And i wanted to wait for him because he’s just now thinking of getting out of his situation.
Anyways i felt bad because she was very serious so i had to talk to him about the break up. And we broke up. He left. I didn’t want to break up. He met me the next day, cried and kept saying he’s sorry and that it’s his current financial situation and he’s just not the romantic type.
We went out ways and now i just miss him so much. He was my best friend apart everything we had. Im a very complicated person too. I just feel so bad for leaving him for this. He’s young and he hasn’t had the opportunities my family offered me. I just don’t want to be away from him and i don’t know if im thinking wrong because i know that with him like this my future is at risk.But i don’t want to make my aunt (and mom) sad and concerned either.
Is it a good idea to stay with him because of love?