I (27F) got out of an almost 6 year relationship last year so I haven’t really “dated” anyone since I was 20 and honestly have no idea how dating looks like at this stage of my life (probably sucks). I am not really actively looking for love, not really looking to settle down anytime soon. If I do end up falling in love then cool, but I am honestly just trying to have fun right now. How does one achieve the kind of casual relationship where y’all both know it’s temporary and mainly just for sex, but still go on dates, have mutual respect, enjoy each other’s company, know that it’s not exclusive but are honest with each other about it?
For example: before I got with my ex, I had a sugar daddy. Money aside, it was a very fun relationship that went on for months. We would go on cute dates like 2 days out of the week. It wasn’t “meet me at x spot” for sex and part ways. He prioritized my pleasure and made sure I was always comfortable. He was honest with me, I was honest with him. We respected each other’s boundaries. We would have good conversations and just honestly enjoyed each other’s company despite the age difference. The man would even come to my rescue in the middle of the night if I was in an unsafe situation lol. We parted ways when he met someone he wanted to actually be with and I went back to my ex. But I have a lot of respect for him till this day and we still sent each other “merry Christmas” texts over the years.
I want something similar to that (without the money part). Is this even achievable with a man in his late 20s -30s or is this a just an older rich man thing? lol. I want sex and male attention but I don’t know how I feel about giving cooch to a man who sends “you up?” Texts at 12 am or that immediately brings up sex. 99% of the time the sex is garbage anyways. Someone burst my bubble and tell me that this is a pipe dream so I can just lower my expectations or be ok with practically having my hymen grow back 😂
I am seriously about to delete Hinge bc the men on there act like high schoolers. Maybe I just need to go get another sugar daddy.