I’m a woman (22). I’ve always approached any man I’ve been in a relationship with and it’s safe to say, never again. This has been my experience with 5 guys total. Different cultures, religions, ethnicities, ages.
Every single time, the guy is so happy at first but then just plays these idiotic games. They love the attention they get. Everyone says “just approach a man if you like him don’t wait” and I’ve seen how that went for me. If a man really likes you, he will approach. One guy in my entire life has approached me, and while we didn’t date due to belief differences, it was the most respectful “thing” I ever had and I felt respected, and never like I had to “win” his love for me.
Men get so excited when women approach them then call them desperate? Like what? I’ve never called a guy who approached me desperate. We’re human, we approach and look for connection. I’m trying not to generalize, but in my experience the guy is just happy to find that a girl took initiative and even if he has no intentions to commit, be exclusive, or be serious, will entertain you and make you WORK for his attention respect and love. I’m so tired of this. If you don’t like me, just say so. Don’t get infatuated with the attention. One guy I knew that I had NO idea had a gf of 4 years already confessed once I found out that he just loved the attention and couldn’t put a stop to it.
I’m not sure how to avoid or stop this type of stuff from happening again. Do I just stop approaching altogether or what? Does anyone have any tips.