Just saw a post on Facebook saying that women don't like kind men because they see it as weak and I thought I would share my response to anyone who needs to hear it. There's a lot of garbage advice out there that confuses more than it helps.
Being kind and good is the strongest thing someone can do, especially when the world is trying to push them in another direction. We're not talking about being a "nice guy" who sucks up to women. These posts are leading young men astray. You don't need to be a cocky dick who is full of yourself to get women, those people are honestly insufferable and most women I know can't stand them.
You should be a kind person who is respectful and secure in yourself who acts that way towards everyone not because they want something in return, but because that's who they are. They should be strong and aren't afraid to stand up for themselves and others who can't stand up for themselves. They should be loyal to their friends, family, and their partner. Don't put others down, instead try and build them up. Separate yourself from any toxic people in your life and don't wish them bad, that takes away from your own peace. They should have their own interests and passions and build upon them so that they have something to share with their partner. Find something that gives your life purpose and meaning aside from getting women. This could be church, volunteering, or anything. Don't just sit on your couch all day scrolling on social media, get outside and experience life, real life. They should build their confidence by facing challenges, building themselves up, and doing that thing that they are afraid to do and when you fall get yourself back up. Don't be discouraged by failure.
When it comes to talking to women always be true to yourself, you don't want them to fall for someone who doesn't exist, you want them to fall for the real you. Don't try too hard to impress them or treat them like a prize to be won. Just treat them like normal people and if you like them don't be afraid to show them you are interested without going overboard. You don't need to act like a "simp". Just ask them out and see what they say, don't play those stupid games trying to be hard to get, it really doesn't have to be that complicated. If they say yes then that's awesome there could be something there but if they say no just take it with grace, be respectful and move on with your life.
Know when it's time to walk away, know your worth and if they are doing the bare minimum, you sense they are playing with you, or just keeping you around for validation walk away and don't look back. There are plenty of serious women out there. Don't get discouraged by rejection, it happens to all of us and it's the price of admittance. Just be proud you had the courage to ask and the more you do it the easier it gets. You may have to go through a lot of rejection before you get a yes but it will all be worth it when you find that person.
When you have them, be a loving attentive partner, don't take them for granted but don't tolerate disrespect. Relationships need to be reciprocal. You want a fulfilling and loving relationship not one you have to walk on eggshells all the time. It really is a shame that this garbage is being shoved down young people's throats, yes don't be a pushover suck up for women and have respect for yourself. Also don't become a cocky dick, buying into that "alpha male" bs and lose yourself trying to impress women. Both are just as bad in their own ways. The women who want that aren't worth your time and trust me there are good women out there who just want a kind, strong man who is secure in themself.