My wife and I have been married for two years. By all accounts, things seem to be going well. We spend a lot of time together, even when doing mundane tasks. We often text or call each other during work breaks, or if we are away from each other.
A year ago she asked me if she could “go out” with another man. She said that it should be okay since we trusted each other and she would never do anything. They were just friends. She even said I could take up my female coworker on her offer to take me out for drinks. This even after I explained to my wife previously that this woman had purely sexual intentions. I said no to my coworker because I was married.
I told my wife that she could not go out with this guy, whose name she declined to give me. I said to her that this sounded like a date and even described the definition of a date in comparison to what she was describing. That was not the end of it.
For months afterwards, she brought it up 11 more times. Only saying he was a longtime long lost friend. Each time trying a different angle to manipulate me, gaslighting, deception, changing around what she said before, etc.
Finally I told her that she could see other men, but that I would also leave her if she did. This was the first time I yelled at my wife, and cussed. And that brought this to an end.
Fast forward to three days ago. I was texting her during my break, when my iPhone suggested an autocomplete to a sentence I was typing, only it suggested the name JJ. The sentence was supposed to read “I love you so much” and it suggested “my JJ”. I was stunned. I knew JJ. He was the neighbor down the road. In fact, I have seen my wife on many occasions in front of his house talking to him while walking our dogs. When they see me, he goes inside and she starts walking back home.
This alone I suspected something was amiss. But with the iPhone suggesting his name, I am almost certain of it. My previous marriage partly suffered due to infidelity on account of my ex wife, so I was already vigilant of such things.
I do know that iPhones do share autocomplete suggestions of devices are on the same iCloud plan, but we’re not. But that doesn’t explain why it chose his name because it doesn’t appear in my phone anywhere. No contacts, social media connections, zero. I think her phone made that suggestion and shared it with mine. Coupled with the context it was used, has me upset and angry.
I could use some advice. Is this a random technological mishap, or is there something to this? Thank you everyone for taking time to read my post.