I'm a guy who is contemplating my relationship with my girlfriend.
I have been with her for 2 years now, and it is both of our first times in a relationship. She is the prime example of a good girlfriend: supportive, cutesy, loving, the whole combo. We are both very fond of each other's company and love doing things together. Though, there are some things that rub me the wrong way about this relationship.
To start, she is extremely emotional, breaking down into tears easily during arguments, even if they are minor. She can be overly clingy, which I sometimes don't mind but it can be a bit much here and there. Our interests seem to diverge in the grand scheme of things (we only really like similar TV shows/movies/anime).
When we have our disagreements or arguments, I feel that no matter how bad things get with us she always seems to value me over herself, constantly berating and placing the blame on herself even after many talks about how she shouldn't think like that. She also often asks if I love her back when things get bad. I always say yes but it bothers me that after all this time she has not learned from any of our previous talks. I will admit I have had a short temper at times, saying things from my inner mind that ended up hurting her and leading to long talks and conversations. After these conversations, she still stays with me when normally people would leave a relationship after that kind of thing.
She has had a sheltered life, divorced parents, and not the best home environment. It's safe to say she's traumatized, so I understand why she can feel this anxiously attached to people, especially in a relationship.
Besides relationship background/arguments, another thing is that we have never had sex. I want to, she SAYS she wants to, however it was made clear to me by her that that would have to wait until after marriage. I tell her I understand, yet in my mind this frustrates me (I believe she's partially aware of this). We get intimate in other ways, but sometimes I do not feel satisfied. It was originally in my interest to be sexually active in a relationship, but I see that that is not going to happen here until marriage.
She also says that I am the only person that makes her happy in life, and that she doesn't know what she would ever do without me. Part of me feels grateful to be that figure in her life that gives her happiness and love and wants to continue to be that, but another part of me feels I am in a choke-hold situation as per the points mentioned above (most notably, the extremely emotional point).
This looming thought on whether I should break up has been in my head for some time now. I'm not sure what to do. She's a great, kind person and I love being with her, but I just don't know if it can last.
TL;DR: love hanging out with gf, but have various issues with the relationship where I feel our standards/personalities don't align/conflict with one another. Unsure if to stay or to split up.