hey y’all…didn’t think I’d be posting on here. 26F. Been with 28M since high school, nearly 9 years. Engaged six years and just got married in June. We have a very trusting relationship but I got the urge to look at this phone while he was sleeping last night and found a still open private browser looking up “escorts in our city”. We did have one issue of me finding a site like this in his history in 2019. It was a gigantic fight, like nearly relationship ending. We agreed that he needed to work through whatever caused him to do that, set the boundary that it was a cheating behavior, and moved on. I had access to his phone and passwords to look through when I felt the need to since I was the one who had their trust broken. We never had an issue again until this… advice needed please. Do I suggest couples counseling? Come at him angry? Approach it like I just want to understand?
Edit Additional context though I don’t think it justifies anything- We have sex once a week or every two weeks these days and it’s always been my understanding that he doesn’t mind this frequency. I’m in nursing school and he works two jobs that helped to pay for our wedding and is supplementing my income so I can be mostly part-time while finishing school so there is improvement that could be made in the bedroom but this was never an issue that he has brought up. I feel so lost and disappointed right now.
TLDR: Husband looking up escorts in our city and I don’t know how to bring it up or what to do