My boyfriend (25M) and I (30F) have been together for a year. We met through a mutual friend, and everything has felt solid until a recent conversation about sex threw me for a loop.
A few weeks ago, he casually mentioned that he’s curious about pegging. This was a total first for me; my only serious relationship was a 5 year monogamous one in my early 20s, and pegging never came up. My First reaction was "isn’t that kinda gay?" but I did some reading, learned about the prostate being a major pleasure point for men, and decided not to judge. I told him I’m open to trying it he’s never done it with anyone else either.
Fast-forward to last weekend: we were online Shopping.. picking out toys, spot a strap on we both like, and I jokingly say, "Oh, I am gonna make you gag on my dick.” He instantly admits he got hard just hearing it. I laughed it off in the moment, but I’ve been overthinking ever since.
Here is the context thats feeding my mind: he’s only had two short-term girlfriends before me and says he "hasnt explored much." On the other Hand, He also mentioned Futanari (the hentai Subgenre) and that He Watches it or smth. I’m worried the pegging interest + his reaction to my joke means he might eventually realize he’s gay (or bi) and leave. I know sexual orientation and kinks arent the same thing, but the combo is messing with my head.
Am I being insecure and judgmental, or is this a valid worry? Has anyone else navigated a partner discovering pegging (and dirty talk about it) without it signaling a bigger sexuality shift?