I 26F am thinking of moving in with my 29M. We’ve been dating long distance for 2.5 years. Earlier this year, he moved out by me for a few months (big city). He wants me to now move permanently in with him (small town). I don’t have any friends in this small town but I am closer to my family.
When he last came to visit me, we were fighting a lot. We blamed it on the small living space we were in, which I agree, caused a lot of our conflict.
However, he tends to get angry very quick at certain things I do. He said he was losing patience with me (he’s never had much to begin with), and that sometimes I “slow him down.” (?) he’s also brought up that the repeat behavior of me messing up has caused him to harbor resentment towards me. He constantly feels that “no one is up to his level or executes the way he does” regarding his romantic relationship, family, work, and friends.
When he gets frustrated, he gets terse, short, and sometimes very mean with his words. He tells me he loves me a lot but also gets very frustrated if I don’t get a plate out for him if I’m getting one out for myself. He’ll get really frustrated if I’m cooking and the protein, carb, and veggie don’t cook at the same time.
He’s been really busy w work lately which is adding to the stress. Basically I’m wondering, will this behavior improve if we move in together?? Is this normal frustrations within a relationship? Does he secretly hate me? Will his patience ever improve??