I've (25 F) lived by myself since I was 19. I meet my bf (23 M) 4 years ago. He's always smoked weed far more than me. I smoke every now and then, but he is addicted to it. It is one of the first thing he does when he wakes up and the last when going to sleep, I think he probably smokes between 4-6 joints a day, but I'm not sure.
Since we meet we were inseparable, we saw each other everyday and it still is like that, but recently I feel like he is only coming over not to see me or hang out with me but to smoke because he can do it here freely. I feel like he is not as caring and physical with me as before. I know I have to communicate this but I don't how because he often takes a defensive stance. So, I was thinking about telling him to only smoke on weekends and depending on his answer move forwards to share my concern.
I'm sorry if it is kind of a stupid situation, I don't have the best communication skills and neither does he. But I really am trying to be vocal about my concerns and hopefully solve this situation.
What should I do? How should I confront this?
TL;DR I feel like my boyfriend cares more about smoking than being with me.