Me(26 F) and a guy(30 M) met on a dating app in the beginning of summer '25. At that time i felt really good, quit drinking and sugar, and was super high energy. Me and this guy dated for a month, in which we both realized we didnt have much in common, and we went casual. After 2 months we ghosted each other. In that time I went from 200lbs to 230lbs in ~3 months. I was depressed, ate, but most importantly isolated from everyone(including but not just him). I deal with mild-depression, and my fbuddy also has adhd/autism(hyperfixates on geo-polotics/USA centric). Basically neither of us has the best mental heath.
The problem: both of our minds cleared up i guess. I thought to myself, "Oh I finally have energy let's reprioritze the social circle" and he literally texted the next day without my prompting.
I dont think he necessarily likes big girls, but I wasn't the skinniest straw in the kitchen when we begun our relationship. While I am somewhat horny, I'm not sure if I should invite him over with such a dramatic weight gain over our time apart. I already had to turn down his invites twice because of plans with family, so the balls basically in my court to invite him.
I know people would be like "he's just a fbuddy who cares?" But like i dont think i could handle anyone being disgusted with my body right now, or even noticing him asking to turn down the lights or for me to keep my clothes on, even though thatd make me more comfortable also? Idk man its a trip. I come from like a super skinny family so idk what most men's "weight" lines are?
TL;DR, I wasn't skinny to begin with, but 30lbs is still dramatic for me. Should I invite an old fbuddy over?