My husband and I (25m and 21f) have been married for a little over a month, and together for about 3 years. I love him more than anything, and our relationship is perfect except for 1 thing; his sex drive is far less than mine. When we first started talking he had told me that he had a high sex drive, and in the first few months he did, as any new couple in the honeymoon phase does. After not too long though I started to notice the difference in our libido. Fast forward to now, we’ve been living together for almost 2 years, and this issue is a constant source of strife for me. What makes this even worse is my ex was the exact same(and the only other person I’ve ever been with), and that only serves to reinforce the feeling that there’s something wrong with me. Logically I know there isn’t, but yall know how that is.
It doesn’t really seem like a big deal, and I often feel so shallow for caring so much about it, but having my advances constantly turned down or avoided is so emotionally draining, especially growing up around the rhetoric that guys are the ones that always want sex, so they’re the ones who should be chasing their partner. All I ever see online is how easy it is for women to get their men in the mood, how much they love/want their body, how they can get them to drop trow n whip it out at the drop of a hat, and its so isolating to feel like the only woman going through this. It’s impossible not to feel like there’s something wrong with me.
We’ve had many conversations about this as well, and he knows that it’s an issue for me, though I don’t know if I can possibly effectively express how deeply it impacts me. He always just holds me while I cry to him about it, we have one or two good fucks the next week or so, and we’re back to business as usual. I don’t really know what I’m hoping to get out of making this post, but I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this, and I’ve never met anyone who can relate to me. I just want to know what it’s like to feel truly desired. I love my husband so much and I know he loves me, but I just don’t understand why he is not very interested in sex if he truly loves me as much as he says.
TL;DR: I love my husband, hence I want to bone. He says he loves me, but is only interested in meeting his obligatory weekly boning session. Am sad and feel like there is something wrong with me 🙁