Been off/on for 3 years, back together 4 months.
Stuck living with our families due to mental & physical disabilities.
I tried to give them resources on getting diagnosed, finding a job that would be easier for them, getting medical care, etc.
I offered for them to apply for housing w/ me in their county so we could be closer to family like they wanted.
3 months later, I am applying for housing in my county, alone. They insist on working w/ their family at a job they won't be able to handle. Living with their mom & asking me to move in, even after I get an apt. Bitch about their family 24/7.
I told them they will have to come see me- I won't leave my cat & I am tired of visiting them in a house full of people 2x a month.
I'm over it, I'm just going to deal w/ finding a job I can do, getting my apt, etc. If they want to throw a fit about living with me, I'll be alone.
If they do move in, I expect they deal with their hoarding issue, learn to clean, + they can decorate their hobby room – reasonable asks.
They want a house, but turn their nose up at living in a trailer park, it's the best we could ever afford.
I don't mind an apt, it's less work. There's busses to go anywhere. I hardly leave my room, why do I need a house?
It's pissing me off. I care for them, I don't want to leave, but their refusal to better themselves, accept their limitations, blaming me for my "refusal to compromise" or saying "I don't want to live with them" is insane. I'm getting distant bc of how immature + unwilling they are.
They don't even understand basic things like bargain shopping which is huge for me.
They live in this land of believing we can do all of these things but I am a realistic person, which apparently means I don't love them, because I try to reason with them + explain limitations/practicalities/affordability.