I met this guy off a dating app recently who I found physically attractive. When we met up, I realized that we are very incompatible relationship wise but we clicked sexually. The sex is really good so I decided to continue things as a booty call.
I told him that and he said that he also enjoys my company and he wants to be more of friends with benefits. He said he doesn’t have any romantic feelings for me and I agreed. He said that he doesn’t want to base our friendship around sex and he wants us to hang out with his friends and do things. I didn’t really mind the arrangement as he’s still a fun person.
That was a month ago, since then we’ve been texting regularly but I realized that he’s a horrible texter and he sometimes leaves me on read which I find rude even for a friend. He never initiates to hang out and when I ask about his weekend plans he leaves me on read. I pointed it out to him and he was horrible at communicating in that situation. Completely disregarding my feelings and deflecting the situation. He did tell me that he’a avoidant and has ADHD so maybe that’s playing a role in his struggle to text back and communicate.
Now I’m not sure I want to be friends anymore, I still want to have sex though should I inform him or just slowly pull back and only message him when I want to have sex?
TL;DR guy who said he wants to be friends with benefits is not putting an effort into the friendship. Should I have a proper talk with him about our expectations or just quietly treat him like booty call?