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I’m feeling completely lost and heartbroken right now. My husband and I had been having a lot of arguments lately — mostly because he became distant and told me not to engage with him much. I tried to give him space, but I was feeling so lonely and kept trying to reconnect. Eventually, he asked me to move out. I resisted the idea for a while, but in the end, I gave up and came to stay with my parents.
He said he needed space and that he’s under a lot of financial stress trying to stabilize his business. I know he’s a good man at heart, and that’s the only thing keeping me from being angry at him.
Even after I left, I kept calling him once a day just to stay connected. But his responses hurt me deeply. He said he doesn’t miss me and that he’s doing fine handling everything alone. It felt like my presence never mattered.
The last time we spoke, I told him to call me only when he misses me or thinks of me. It’s been 8 days now… and nothing. No message, no call. His birthday is in 3 days, and my heart aches to reach out. But I’m scared — scared I’ll look desperate, scared he still won’t care, and honestly scared because this is my second marriage. I really love him and don’t want to lose him, but I also don’t know how to move in this silence.
Should I call him on his birthday or wait for him to reach out first?
TL;DR: My husband and I had big arguments because he got distant and he asked me to move out because of financial stress. I still love him deeply. I used to call him daily, but he said he doesn’t miss me, so I stopped. It’s been 8 days of silence, and his birthday is in 3 days. I don’t know if I should call him or wait for him to reach out