I (30M) have been seeing someone (27F) for about five weeks. We met at a coffee shop, hit it off instantly, and have gone on about 6 dates since. We’ve been taking things slow, partly because we both have some trauma in our pasts, but the connection has felt warm and emotionally safe.
Yesterday, she told me she doesn't feel the same "chemical rush" that I’ve felt. She said she's worried she's giving mixed signals and doesn't want to lead me on. At the same time, she also said she thinks I’m amazing and that she needs more time. I took that as her being honest and cautious, but I left the conversation feeling really confused, it felt like both a "maybe" and a "not really" at the same time. She's uncomfortable with intimacy and physical closeness, but we kiss, make out and cuddle.
To make things more complicated, when we talked about deeper topics (like why I want kids one day), she actually started crying, and through tears, she told me how amazing I am. It was very emotional and confusing because it felt like she was deeply moved, but also scared. I don’t know if she’s overwhelmed, avoidant, or just being gentle about her lack of attraction.
I'm trying to give her space and stay grounded, but my feelings are stronger than hers, and the mixed messages are hard to interpret. I'd love to hear from people who've been in similar situations, does this sound like someone who’s emotionally conflicted but interested, or someone trying to let me down gently?