bare with me, i haven’t posted on reddit in years.
my boyfriend (26 M) and i (23 F) have been together for almost 4 years, and within the last year i noticed a shift in him from moderate politically to somewhat on the right.
frankly, i don’t care about politics so when i noticed this shift it didn’t immediately set off any alarm bells.
more recently he has started fights with me over politics, to the point where i feel like i need to play devils advocate with him over things i really don’t want to.
i am simply not a confrontational person.
he started blaming “the jews” for everything. he thinks “the jews” control our entire government (i’m american) , the media, all the money in the world. he believes “the jews” are evil.
he also is just simply racist and homophobic, again it feels like this has happened all of a sudden. when he knows i have friends and family in my life who i love and cherish, that are POC and LGBT.
when he starts arguments about these groups of people, i find myself getting really emotional, crying, and confused.
all of this is so confusing to me. it is a complete 180 from the person i started this relationship with.
it feels like this hateful rhetoric has come pretty much out of thin air.
today we had an argument where he was attempting to convince me that racism is “pattern recognition”.
i’ve asked him where he gets all this information and he will say something to the tune of “the people online who notice it and post about it”.
if i do research into these topics and can’t find anything REMOTELY close to what he has said he will tell me “my eyes aren’t open” “i’m just blowing off the truth”.
at this point i feel like my relationship is crumbling.
i need some advice. i need to know where this is coming from. i need to know if who he was when we first met was fake?
i just want to make it very clear that i know what he is saying is insane.
if you have any advice, or know where the hell this has come from i’m willing to listen.
i really miss the sweet boy i fell in love with.
is there any fixing this?