I am pretty sad and in denial. I mean how do you go from sorta leading me since January…..
In 2023, I met a guy at the gym, and we started as friends. At the time, I was going through the aftermath of an abusive relationship that ended horribly. Over time, I developed feelings for this gym guy but I was scared to act on them because I had just left my ex. I noticed signs that he liked me too. One day, I asked him directly if he liked me because I was getting mixed signals. He admitted he did!
From that day, we started dating. We were in constant contact with calls and texts, and we were physically intimate. Four months in, i ended it because I realized I was being triggered by many things related to my past trauma, so I told him it was better we remain friends. He didn’t take it well, and we lost touch for seven months. I still cared about him and wanted to be his friend because of what he was going through. he was on the verge of losing his mother.
Around New Year, he called to tell me his mother had passed. I was deeply sorry and grateful he still confided in me. I told him I would be there for him no matter what. From that day, he started calling once a week, then escalated to 2–5 times a week. He slowly became flirty, but I wasn’t hopeful because he had moved 80 miles away. Every time he came to my area, he would call to see me. Every single body language signaled to him liking me.
In July, we went to a party and he became overly flirty (hugging me closer, caressing my waist, thighs, and hair, and leaning in close). I asked him to kiss me but he just pecked my lips.
On Thursday he told me he wanted to see me. We hung out. We were in his car and he ran his fingers through my lips and touched my hair, but there was still no kiss. I didn’t want to ask again.
The next day, we hung out again and became sexually intimate in the car. We looked messy and told me to fix myself so my mom wouldn’t suspect anything. I live with her but that was a weird comment on his part. I told him my mom doesn’t over analyze like plus I already had confirmed her questions. He looked scared and nervous and asked, “What do you mean?”
I told him, “She asked if I liked you,” and I said, “yes.” He didn’t respond, and I haven’t heard from him in a week. I know he was going to be out of town on Monday for a filming event for work but that’s about it.
Also I had the courage to confess because prior to that conversation, we were talking about my living situation. My dad has retired and they’re planning on moving back to Mexico. My brother and I are considering moving to a different city. That is still debatable. He had asked “when is this happening again?” I told him “maybe next year and I may move more south of LA….” He responded with “I’m not looking forward to when that happens” maybe because I’ll be farther from him??
After everything, it’s confusing and painful. He went from calling me every day, showing signs of affection near him, finding ways to see me…to now showing any emotion with my confession