What privileges do women have that they might not realize they wouldn’t have if they were men?
November 7, 2025
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Amount of people willing to pay good money to see their buttholes.
Women completely control the dating scene while also not having to deal with the constant feeling of rejection. Women often don’t feel rejection from their own partners like men do.
Women gatekeep sex. Men gatekeep relationships.
People generally wouldn’t just spontaneously talk to them (except for customer service/sales). And people certainly wouldn’t just randomly give them free stuff like a lot of attractive women experience.
I’ve heard/read several trans-man report how shockingly different the social experience is when presenting as a man. It’s even brought them to tears. Women don’t realize just how socially isolated men generally feel. Women are very guarded against men.
Years of this isolation causes social skills to atrophy so when men WANT to be more social they aren’t equipped. A man has to put in the effort. Always. There’s no being passive and letting people come to you.
EDIT: THere is some exception for exceedingly attractive men. But that bar is much higher than it is for women.
The privilege of not being treated like a man!
The freedom of attire. You have access to so much more jewelry and clothes without getting judged. Men can’t wear dresses, makeup and most jewelry, without getting called gay and judged for appearing “feminin”.
Pussy pass is a real thing. Women can get away with a LOT with nothing more than a slap on a wrist.
You can argue it’s due to sexism, but it’s still a privilege.
For better or for worse, people’s expectations for them are lower so they aren’t as shamed/ridiculed for failure. People are less judgmental when they don’t know how to do something. People are more impressed when they do know how to do something.
This is the Bigotry of Low Expectations, but it’s not all downsides.
Presumption of innocence in any kind of verbal or physical altercation.
Not being seen as dangerous by strangers.
Being in control of sexual and romantic encounters.
Not being forced to participate in war.
Not being expected to do physically difficult tasks.
Being seen as inherently valuable and worth protecting.
Realistically having both the options of career and stay-at-home parenting.
A culture that encourages health and self-care.
Women can be: boring, whiny, demanding, difficult, rude, and unreliable in SOCIAL settings and people are more willing to just accept it.
I think that every single negative personality trait is more tolerated in women than in men in social settings.
We have all heard of the male loneliness epidemic. A lot of women are not lonely, but the truth is they have no personality, or maybe even a bad personality, and it is just tolerated. If they were men, they would be lonely.
Women have no idea the sheer amount of rejection most men have faced. And if men don’t put in the legwork to build a relationship, they’ll never have one since we overwhelmingly never get approached
Women can have double standards and zero accountability.
Men cannot.
The women are wonderful effect.
Ladies night, free admission, free drinks
Ladies day discounts …
In the US in particular: the right to bodily integrity as a child.
Yes, I’m talking about male genital mutilation, which is a federal crime when done to girls, but we euphemistically call “circumcision” when done to boys.
The right to not have a child. Woman gets pregnant and she does not want the child, she can have an abortion. Woman gets pregnant and HE does not want a child, man can’t do shit
I think most women are pretty aware of the privileges they have. But there’s always that one girl who is super positive and optimistic about everything and thinks that the world is just filled with kind and generous strangers who are willing to help out out of the kindness of their own hearts. They would be absolutely flattened to experience life as an average dude for a week
Strangers willing to help you
Being able to express strong emotions with triggering a fight or flight response from over half the people around you.
People being willing to help you. There being services to help you.
Getting service in a crowded bar.
If shy, going on dates.
People aren’t automatically suspicious or assume the worst of them
Women get away with a lot more sexual harassment and other things men would get labeled creepy over.
The ability to form groups, clubs, and organizations solely for your gender.
1. Easier to get approached/able to be passive
2. Appear safer and more trustworthy
3. Life is more affordable if they date
4. Smaller body means great as pilots
5. Less surface area to shower
6. More depth of social opportunities (leading indicator of happiness)
7. Longevity
8. Live healthier naturally (habits)
9. Can be choosier with careers and go for meaning easier (another big indicator of happiness)
10. Unlikely to get the death penalty or severe sentences
11. Unlikely to have to go to war
12. Considerably less likely to deal with addiction (gambling, porn, alcohol, drugs)
13. More of their same sex that value friendships
14. Can be emotionally open with less judgment
15. Can get help more easily (moving, if homeless, if injured)
16. Usually more time with their kids
17. Get to dress up and express their individuality easier
While reactions may vary, and some women may actually be grateful, I think the average young woman would fall into a deep depression if she got as little attention and validation from the opposite sex as the average man does, or received even a fraction of the amount of rejection.
If someone farts, no one thinks it was a women.
Wasn’t there a woman who deliberately disguised herself and lived as a man for awhile, then wrote an article about how shitty it was?
So in my country (NZ), on average, a woman will actually receive something close to 300,000 dollars in government programs and grants in excess of the taxes she will pay over her life.
Despite this, the government stays in the black.
e: spelling
1. Even if they straight up lie, people will give them sympathy. It doesn’t matter how illogical, not fact based, or even slanderous to someone else, people will give them some degree of forgiveness and credibility. The worst case scenario is they are ignored, but there’s no actual repercussion as long as she looks upset while telling the lie. People will even go so far as to construct valid reasons for them having told the lie to justify it. You won’t see people doing this for most men, except for the ones that hold powerful positions.
2. Women are coddled whenever they have an emotional outburst. It will have almost no negative consequences unless they go way too far, it’s just societies expectation of them as a woman. They can say almost anything during the outburst without any real blowback. If a man loses his cool, he’s more then likely to get fired, dumped, unfriended, etc. It blows my mind that my wife has not been fired yet for the way she responds to people when she’s upset. I have seen numerous events over my career where I would have have expected the woman to get fired for completely inappropriate behavior when she was upset, but everyone just pretends like it didn’t happen. HR sleeps on the event entirely. I’ve seen men fired for much less.
The bar for attractiveness in women is much lower, and the range of what’s attractive is much broader, than in men. Lots of men are attracted to women of all shapes and sizes. The converse is very much not true.
Slapping a man and not immediately being punched in the mouth
The ability to take pride in a low paying or part time job because they’re “prioritizing family,” or “pursuing their passion.”
I don’t know a single male who was praised for making $19k a year, regardless of how honorable the work was or how many of his kid’s soccer practices he attended.
My wife is a doctor, patients of any gender or age will hug her.
Never seen that happen to any of the male doctors.
Society is a very, very lonely and emotionally detached experience for most men.
The Draft/Selective Service is probably the biggest example I can point to, at least in the US. You have to sign up just to get a driver’s license as a man.
You may go “oh well you’ve never been drafted”, and like, sure, but I still had to legally agree to sign my bodily autonomy away if the rich people in the Capitol building decide another large country has offended them.
Imagine if women had to sign something when they got a driver’s license that says in the event of a war/draft, they have a random chance of being required to get pregnant by a soldier before he’s deployed to keep the population up. I would say that’s probably about the equivalent, maybe even a little better because at least you have a lesser chance of dying in childbirth vs a war.
They can find sexual partners pretty much whenever they want.
The gender empathy gap.
I’ve read so many stories from trans people who were completely blindsided about how much colder and more indifferent people and institutions generally are to men.
Innocent until proven guilty exists in all sectors of the US judicial system, except for when a woman accuses a man of a violent and or sexual crime.
Women are constantly reassured by friends, family, society that they are beautiful and everything they do is great. Most men can count on one hand how many times they’ve been complimented. Imagine what that does to the emotional well-being.
I have an example that makes me sad when I think about it.
I didn’t even notice at the time, but it hit me a few months after the fact, but on my wedding day, I got 2 compliments – one from my brother and one from my best man. This was after months of planning my outfit, spending the money, and spending literal hours grooming and cleaning myself up. I don’t know if a woman has ever gotten less than 2 compliments on her wedding day. I just don’t think it happens.
I know it is a single instance, but I think it’s a decent representation of how society treats women vs men. This is also just something I’ve personally dealt with my whole life, which is why I hate myself and feel worthless as a human unless I’m spending time and money on someone else.
I can ask a man to help me with literally anything and usually they will. I’ve never had a man refuse to help me with something.
40 comments
Amount of people willing to pay good money to see their buttholes.
Women completely control the dating scene while also not having to deal with the constant feeling of rejection. Women often don’t feel rejection from their own partners like men do.
Women gatekeep sex. Men gatekeep relationships.
People generally wouldn’t just spontaneously talk to them (except for customer service/sales). And people certainly wouldn’t just randomly give them free stuff like a lot of attractive women experience.
I’ve heard/read several trans-man report how shockingly different the social experience is when presenting as a man. It’s even brought them to tears. Women don’t realize just how socially isolated men generally feel. Women are very guarded against men.
Years of this isolation causes social skills to atrophy so when men WANT to be more social they aren’t equipped. A man has to put in the effort. Always. There’s no being passive and letting people come to you.
EDIT: THere is some exception for exceedingly attractive men. But that bar is much higher than it is for women.
The privilege of not being treated like a man!
The freedom of attire. You have access to so much more jewelry and clothes without getting judged. Men can’t wear dresses, makeup and most jewelry, without getting called gay and judged for appearing “feminin”.
Pussy pass is a real thing. Women can get away with a LOT with nothing more than a slap on a wrist.
You can argue it’s due to sexism, but it’s still a privilege.
For better or for worse, people’s expectations for them are lower so they aren’t as shamed/ridiculed for failure. People are less judgmental when they don’t know how to do something. People are more impressed when they do know how to do something.
This is the Bigotry of Low Expectations, but it’s not all downsides.
Presumption of innocence in any kind of verbal or physical altercation.
Not being seen as dangerous by strangers.
Being in control of sexual and romantic encounters.
Not being forced to participate in war.
Not being expected to do physically difficult tasks.
Being seen as inherently valuable and worth protecting.
Realistically having both the options of career and stay-at-home parenting.
A culture that encourages health and self-care.
Women can be: boring, whiny, demanding, difficult, rude, and unreliable in SOCIAL settings and people are more willing to just accept it.
I think that every single negative personality trait is more tolerated in women than in men in social settings.
We have all heard of the male loneliness epidemic. A lot of women are not lonely, but the truth is they have no personality, or maybe even a bad personality, and it is just tolerated. If they were men, they would be lonely.
Women have no idea the sheer amount of rejection most men have faced. And if men don’t put in the legwork to build a relationship, they’ll never have one since we overwhelmingly never get approached
Women can have double standards and zero accountability.
Men cannot.
The women are wonderful effect.
Ladies night, free admission, free drinks
Ladies day discounts …
In the US in particular: the right to bodily integrity as a child.
Yes, I’m talking about male genital mutilation, which is a federal crime when done to girls, but we euphemistically call “circumcision” when done to boys.
The right to not have a child. Woman gets pregnant and she does not want the child, she can have an abortion. Woman gets pregnant and HE does not want a child, man can’t do shit
I think most women are pretty aware of the privileges they have. But there’s always that one girl who is super positive and optimistic about everything and thinks that the world is just filled with kind and generous strangers who are willing to help out out of the kindness of their own hearts. They would be absolutely flattened to experience life as an average dude for a week
Strangers willing to help you
Being able to express strong emotions with triggering a fight or flight response from over half the people around you.
People being willing to help you. There being services to help you.
Getting service in a crowded bar.
If shy, going on dates.
People aren’t automatically suspicious or assume the worst of them
Women get away with a lot more sexual harassment and other things men would get labeled creepy over.
The ability to form groups, clubs, and organizations solely for your gender.
1. Easier to get approached/able to be passive
2. Appear safer and more trustworthy
3. Life is more affordable if they date
4. Smaller body means great as pilots
5. Less surface area to shower
6. More depth of social opportunities (leading indicator of happiness)
7. Longevity
8. Live healthier naturally (habits)
9. Can be choosier with careers and go for meaning easier (another big indicator of happiness)
10. Unlikely to get the death penalty or severe sentences
11. Unlikely to have to go to war
12. Considerably less likely to deal with addiction (gambling, porn, alcohol, drugs)
13. More of their same sex that value friendships
14. Can be emotionally open with less judgment
15. Can get help more easily (moving, if homeless, if injured)
16. Usually more time with their kids
17. Get to dress up and express their individuality easier
While reactions may vary, and some women may actually be grateful, I think the average young woman would fall into a deep depression if she got as little attention and validation from the opposite sex as the average man does, or received even a fraction of the amount of rejection.
If someone farts, no one thinks it was a women.
Wasn’t there a woman who deliberately disguised herself and lived as a man for awhile, then wrote an article about how shitty it was?
So in my country (NZ), on average, a woman will actually receive something close to 300,000 dollars in government programs and grants in excess of the taxes she will pay over her life.
Despite this, the government stays in the black.
e: spelling
1. Even if they straight up lie, people will give them sympathy. It doesn’t matter how illogical, not fact based, or even slanderous to someone else, people will give them some degree of forgiveness and credibility. The worst case scenario is they are ignored, but there’s no actual repercussion as long as she looks upset while telling the lie. People will even go so far as to construct valid reasons for them having told the lie to justify it. You won’t see people doing this for most men, except for the ones that hold powerful positions.
2. Women are coddled whenever they have an emotional outburst. It will have almost no negative consequences unless they go way too far, it’s just societies expectation of them as a woman. They can say almost anything during the outburst without any real blowback. If a man loses his cool, he’s more then likely to get fired, dumped, unfriended, etc. It blows my mind that my wife has not been fired yet for the way she responds to people when she’s upset. I have seen numerous events over my career where I would have have expected the woman to get fired for completely inappropriate behavior when she was upset, but everyone just pretends like it didn’t happen. HR sleeps on the event entirely. I’ve seen men fired for much less.
The bar for attractiveness in women is much lower, and the range of what’s attractive is much broader, than in men. Lots of men are attracted to women of all shapes and sizes. The converse is very much not true.
Slapping a man and not immediately being punched in the mouth
The ability to take pride in a low paying or part time job because they’re “prioritizing family,” or “pursuing their passion.”
I don’t know a single male who was praised for making $19k a year, regardless of how honorable the work was or how many of his kid’s soccer practices he attended.
My wife is a doctor, patients of any gender or age will hug her.
Never seen that happen to any of the male doctors.
Society is a very, very lonely and emotionally detached experience for most men.
The Draft/Selective Service is probably the biggest example I can point to, at least in the US. You have to sign up just to get a driver’s license as a man.
You may go “oh well you’ve never been drafted”, and like, sure, but I still had to legally agree to sign my bodily autonomy away if the rich people in the Capitol building decide another large country has offended them.
Imagine if women had to sign something when they got a driver’s license that says in the event of a war/draft, they have a random chance of being required to get pregnant by a soldier before he’s deployed to keep the population up. I would say that’s probably about the equivalent, maybe even a little better because at least you have a lesser chance of dying in childbirth vs a war.
They can find sexual partners pretty much whenever they want.
The gender empathy gap.
I’ve read so many stories from trans people who were completely blindsided about how much colder and more indifferent people and institutions generally are to men.
Innocent until proven guilty exists in all sectors of the US judicial system, except for when a woman accuses a man of a violent and or sexual crime.
Women are constantly reassured by friends, family, society that they are beautiful and everything they do is great. Most men can count on one hand how many times they’ve been complimented. Imagine what that does to the emotional well-being.
I have an example that makes me sad when I think about it.
I didn’t even notice at the time, but it hit me a few months after the fact, but on my wedding day, I got 2 compliments – one from my brother and one from my best man. This was after months of planning my outfit, spending the money, and spending literal hours grooming and cleaning myself up. I don’t know if a woman has ever gotten less than 2 compliments on her wedding day. I just don’t think it happens.
I know it is a single instance, but I think it’s a decent representation of how society treats women vs men. This is also just something I’ve personally dealt with my whole life, which is why I hate myself and feel worthless as a human unless I’m spending time and money on someone else.
I can ask a man to help me with literally anything and usually they will. I’ve never had a man refuse to help me with something.
See the “Women are Wonderful” effect: [Women-are-wonderful effect – Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women-are-wonderful_effect)