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  1. I think the one thing I hate about dating is the lectures and comments from friends about dating who are very much married.

    ‘why didn’t you just leave after 10 minutes of the date?!?’ Unless they are idk showing up completely drunk, then I give people the benefit of the doubt and stay for an hour to get to know them. SUE ME.

    ‘How do you have the energy to go out on all these dates’

    I DO NOT. IM EXHAUSTED. I got shit to do and I’d much rather go gym than talk to someone who doesn’t ask anything about me but I’m the one asking the questions.

    I’m so tired of these 2 comments above all.

  3. I’m 31F(ish, gender is whatever) and have a date tonight with someone who is actually my own age. I’ve pretty much always dated older, usually 7-10 years older. The last person close to my own age I dated also usually dated older. I’m actually super nervous about it and have no idea what to expect. Most of my friends are older than I am. In school I didn’t have many friends because I just don’t know how to talk to people my own age. I should just be myself, right? 

  4. I’ve always had a low libido, and it’s been a recurring issue in my relationships. Every partner I’ve had has eventually become frustrated by it. I’m pretty sure it was the final straw in my last relationship. My ex brought it up, and then ended things two days later before I even had a chance to try to address it.

    During that conversation, he said he would ideally like sex twice a week, while I preferred once a week. I told him I was willing to adapt and do whatever I could to make it work for both of us, and he said he was hopeful we would work it out, but I never got the chance to try.

    For a long time, I assumed my low libido was just who I am. But I recently realized (and my ex actually pointed out) that I’ve been on antidepressants since I was 10 and birth control since I was 16. I’ve never been in a relationship while off both, and I know those can definitely affect libido.

    I’m still hurting from the breakup and wish he had given us more of a chance to work on things, but I’ve started seeing a psychiatrist and switched to Wellbutrin, which isn’t known to cause sexual side effects. I don’t expect that to magically fix everything or bring him back (I don’t want him back and I’ve blocked him, anyway, so he wouldn’t even know). I just want to finally figure out whether my low libido is really part of me or a side effect I’ve been living with for years without realizing it.

    Has anyone else dealt with this?

  5. Mornin’ y’all! May you find love that is patient, kind, that does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs, does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, and never fails.

  6. Ugh im still unable to ovary up and ask this guy I really like out because I’m so scared of ruining the vibe of the activity we’re both in if he rejects me. It’s a small group, so it wouldn’t be easy to just avoid him to lick my wounds, so to speak.

    I’m trying to set up a date for this weekend with someone from an app to try to force myself out of this discomfort but I’m really not loving the idea and it feels kind of mean to go on a date with someone if I’m not really feeling it.

  7. Talking with single people both irl and on reddit has made me realize a huge reason why a lot of people are single is their social media algorithms perpetuating caricatures of the other gender. It was also probably the reason I was single for a while too.

  8. Is it weird to ask the person you’re dating to do things that make you feel loved? I think you’ll all respond with a resounding no.

    But here is my real life (and slightly silly) example of what I mean. I really love little gestures like being moved to the inside of the sidewalk while walking on the street with my partner. It’s endearing to me and makes me feel good when they do that. My boyfriend doesn’t do things like that, but he clearly doesn’t know it’s special to me. Is it ok to ask him to do so?

  9. I may be getting emotionally attached to a married friend. Need someone to smack some fucking sense into me.

  10. I just wanted to go to dinner without my kids for once. Can’t get a date so I asked my sister. She’s busy… FML

  11. bickering w my boyfriend because i said i can’t stand people who wear exclusively tevas

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