I 43F am married to a 43M. We both work full time and make the same amount of money. We live in a nice neighborhood and have 2 kids. They have good friends in the neighborhood and we have friends in the community, close to family etc. A new development is going behind our house and one of the house is basically in our backyard. We’ve planted trees etc in preparation for this, however it’s still jarring to see. I am ok with waiting for the trees to grow, we have super low interest rate and I think we need to just ride it out and let the kids grow up. With each stage of construction my husband has what I would call a meltdown. He gets angry and mean and says we are moving. Now that the house is up and framed he’s spiraling and has been extremely mean to me and says we are moving. I agree it’s not ideal but factoring in the kids etc. I don’t think we should move but would maybe consider looking in the spring after the dust settles. He basically told me I can get on board with moving or he’s divorcing me. He told me the only thing I did to deserve the house was marry him and have contributed nothing so it’s his house. Now he is refusing to speak to me. I told him I think he’s just panicking and we need to let it settle before making a decision. I think his outrage is completely uncalled for and not sure what to do.