I’m struggling to process something that’s completely blindsided me.
My best friend (33fF) and I (28F) have been inseparable for over 10 years. She was my maid of honor less than a year ago. Everything seemed normal. She was amazing that weekend, and just a month ago she and her husband stayed with my husband and me for a visit. She talked about upcoming trips, their dogs, and house projects.
Two weeks later, she started acting off. I offered to fly out, then gave her space. Out of nowhere, her family called saying she’d filed for divorce and asked if I knew anything. Her husband and family were totally blindsided and worried she was having some kind of mental-health crisis.
That night, she texted me: “If anyone reaches out, no response… I’ll call you to explain.” I had already talked to her family by then. When she called later, she said their visit to me and my husband “was their last shot.” I was stunned. None of this had ever come up. I told her I loved her and just wanted her to be happy. I understand divorce is very personal but we share everything together that it seemed odd to not mention anything about it to me in any capacity.
After that, I sent one short “love you” text. She deleted me from Find My Friends and social media, changed her number, and cut off mutual friends and some family too.
Then this week, I got a formal email from her titled Harassment Warning. It said she doesn’t owe anyone an explanation, that this is a pivotal step toward her happiness, and that any further contact will be treated as harassment. It ended with “Please do not reply.” I'm not sure who, if anyone, else got this.
Her husband is in a dark place. He said she’s still talking to a few acquaintances. She is talking a lot to a much older “life coach” type friend who’s telling her things like “you’re young, live your life, be selfish.” Her family thinks she's involved in a cult.
I’m confused. It’s surreal to go from daily best friends to total silence.
What are healthy ways to process this? Do I expect to not hear from her again? It feels like a movie.
TL;DR: My best friend of 10 years suddenly filed for divorce, cut off everyone, and sent a “no contact” email calling further messages harassment. I’m shocked and have no idea how to process it or if she’s okay.