TLDR – current friend group has become toxic and now i’m wondering how to get into new friend groups as an adult
So i’ve played hockey for 10+ years now and i did enjoy it but im kinda losing my love for it now.
I have a couple really good friends through it and i get to see them more often cause of hockey.
However, the team has started to get super toxic – there’s a massive pressure to play and people cornering you, questioning you relentlessly, outing you in group chats…
Some of them are constantly putting me down and belittling me. I got a motorbike and they call it “gay” and make fun of me for it – i go climbing, likewise… I think its their way of coping with being stagnant in life whilst i’m doing a lot better. I won’t get into detail but they’re the definition of bums which is why their comments don’t rlly affect me
It’s just some of the boys in the team but it’s getting old and im at the age (24) where i can’t be bothered now. Would be alright if we were winning constantly but we’re not and it sucks.
I’m kinda at a cross roads now – i wanna chuck hockey but i’m worried i won’t see those few boys i enjoy seeing as often. I also do enjoy the social aspect of hockey and i’d need to give that part up.
I have one really good friend outside of hockey but he lives a bit away. I’ve got a lot of acquaintances and everyone really enjoys my company
It’s annoying cause everyone has their own friend groups at this age and it feels like i’m trying to infiltrate