Little back story, I go to school out of state and 2 summers ago I cheated on my at the time girlfriend. Although we stayed together until the end of summer (the cheating wasn’t the reason we broke up as we worked through it) it sent me down a very dark spiral and was very much a turning point in my life in terms of who I wanted to be and who I was. I went to therapy and put a lot of effort into turning myself into a better person and it is something I would never do again.
I’ve been dating my current girlfriend since June and things are going really well, and she is coming home for thanksgiving with me. But before then and before she meets my family I feel like this is my last chance to tell her and give her a clean out in case it changes how she feels about me. I also worry one of my friends at home or their girlfriends will mention something to her.
Although Ik it may change our relationship which I really don’t want, I also feel like it’s part of me fully taking accountability for my actions. At the same time I also have really changed and that’s not the person I want her to think of me as and is something I am trying to move forward from and leave in the past. I don’t want the mistakes of my past to continue to ruin my relationships.
TL;DR I cheated on my ex (who forgave me and told me I didn’t have to tell anyone) more than a year before I started dating my current gf and I don’t know if I should tell her.