I caught feelings for my best friend after our 10 day long trip to a new country. He flew from another country and I flew from mine. We have been close friends since last 2 years and everytime he visits my country he would meet me first get me gifts and stay in touch. Even when he wasn’t here physically, he would FaceTime me, talk to me all the time, reply to my 20 texts with 20 texts, see all my 50 reels on Instagram lol.
But now he don’t do any of this. Suddenly he is not here. His behaviour is very surface level and not of a close friend.
His replies are short and they take too long.
I asks him so many times what’s wrong – he said he is busy. But in last 2 years he has been through hell and back, he never gave me this ‘I’m busy’, he would text me ‘hey bestie a lot is going on sorry I’m unable to be here actively, but I haven’t forgotten about you’.
Now he leaves me on delivered for 6-7 days.
He is active on Snapchat (his snap score keeps increasing) but he doesn’t reply to me on Instagram anymore. He doesn’t see my stories at all. He used to see them and reply to them always.
If I’d get a new haircut he would ask for my photo.
Now, hey I got a new hair color, he ignored it.
I was scared of losing him but I think I have lost him…. He is so distant suddenly post our trip. I have stopped asking him now because I don’t want to ruin it for whatever that’s left.
He is the kind whose action speaks louder than words. So even if he says there is nothing I think there is.
Either he knows I caught feelings or he is invested into someone else. That’s what I think!
Something shifted in him post our trip.
Earlier I decided to give him space, but it’s been 3 months now, nothing changed! He do tries to stay more in touch but I cannot unsee his tone or his changed behavior towards me.
I know him, even if I keep asking him what’s wrong he will only tell me ‘I’m busy’ but that’s not the way he is.
It’s bothering me so much as if I lost him on our trip…
He is important to me and I want to fix this…