You know how many people get comfortable when they are in a relationship and stop working on themselves? I am quite the opposite, I am only motivated when I have someone in my life. I live all by myself, and I spend my free time watching shows and watching sports. I do work out, but I am not super into it or anything. If I had a chance to work harder and get a better position at work I wouldn’t do it. I will go and get a haircut but I prob won’t be getting one so often. Obviously I will take care of how I look but I won’t beyond just to look good. However, when there is someone in my life I start changing many things. I start working out much more, going up to 5 times a week. I start eating healthier and working towards a better position. In fact, my current job is all because I was motivated at some point. In short, I focus a lot on how I look, my career and how I present myself. This makes me feel as a bum since most of the time I am single. And it also hurts my pride to know that I only do things for “myself” when there is someone else I have to prove myself to. Is this normal?