There’s a man late 40s at work. When we go for lunch in a group, he often fills glass of water almost based on my cues (mid-30s f). If I empty my glass, he immediately refills it and then fills everyone else’s. Recently, I reached for my glass to drink and he instantly reached for the bottle. He started filling everyone else’s glasses until I was done, then filled mine again when I put my empty glass back down. It’s happened a few times now.
The other day, it was raining and I was carrying food and an umbrella. Before I could even think about it, he asked if I wanted him to hold my food so I could open the umbrella. I said no at first, but then handed it to him since it was risky to juggle both.
Later, some colleagues were teasing me during lunch about something else and he said “If this is getting too much, let me know.”
This is subtle and consistent.
Is this showing support or what does this behaviour mean?