Hello Internet Strangers, I have come to you all for some advice. I (22F) got out of a long term relationship earlier this year. The relationship was pretty toxic. He was always lying to me, had jealousy issues, and a bit of a temper. The end of the relationship left me jaded and kind of numb. Since then, I’ve been enjoying the single life… no attachments, no feelings, no commitments.
A couple months ago, I met this guy (24M). So far, he is everything that I am looking for… He’s well established with a good job and his own place. He’s a gentleman who takes care of me in every way. He communicates well and is emotionally intelligent. Honestly, I can go on. I have genuine feelings for this guy.
So why am I here? Great question! We’ve been dating for around two months and I’m questioning if we are moving too fast/if this is lovebombing. Here’s a couple things that have happened: He already told me he loves me and he wants me to be his girlfriend. He brought me to meet his family. He bought me a pretty expensive gift. He invited me on a trip with him out of the country (all expenses paid). He constantly praises me, telling me that I’m perfect and beautiful. He told me that he can’t wait for us to move in together and finally he wants to marry me. When I ask him how he can know that so early. He looks me in my eyes and tells me that he “just knows”. He tells me that he has never felt this way with anyone before and he loves me for who I am. He tells me that I am everything that he was looking for. I usually have a pretty good bs meter, and looking into his eyes, I see nothing but genuineness. And it’s not just his words, his actions, and everything he does aligns with everything he says. Over the time that I’ve known him, every single time I need him, he was there no questions asked.
But I can’t shake the trauma that makes me question if any of this is real. I can’t shake the thought that none of this is real and that he will change as soon as he gets comfortable. I guess I’m here as some sort of sanity check. Is this love bombing? How do I know? If it’s not, how do I make sure I don’t mess this up? Has anyone else been in this situation before?