I(25F) brokeup with my boyfriend(28M) of 6 years. When I was with him I had limited male friends, and I did not care what they think/speak/do. But after my breakup I get to know many male friend. Among them 2 man(both 25M) became my closest friend. Kind of backbone supporter(initially).
One day one friend out of his character disrespected me. Kind of showing his true colour. maybe I get to know that initially man usually tried to impress female with whatever they can do. But later their true nature reflect. I confronted him. He apologised and things end there.
Later, second day I told my other friend that man should speak respectfully, dignityfully with a woman. There should be a manner of speaking. I told him whole story.
He told me that what is wrong with that. You women are so pityful. If man behave nicely and speaking nicely, women should be greatful. Women should get atleast one slap from their boyfriend/husband so they understand how men are really respectful. And about speaking disrespectfully, they should just get used to it.
Never in my 6 year of relationship I heard such words from my ex. I was a boxing champion. So to other male so called friend, I told him, c'mon slap me then. Something triggered in me. I asked him not one, I need two slap. And see what you get in return. I stopped behave nice and polie. Once u slap me and if i lose my mind I will drag you from here to the upstair and throw u from above. he told me u can't lift me. I replied- I can lift my dad, u are nothing infront of him. TRY ME.
He said yes, I can see you can do that. He left. I blocked him, deleted his number. He is still wondering what wrong he has done.
Then, I think there are maybe very less man available who truely respect woman. Or less patriarchal. Man that truely and consistantly respect woman are so less that, it made me regret my breakup. Because my ex was so good in terms of equality and respecting woman. He really taught me to stand up for myself. and later that courage made me to breakup with him(ironically). Just sharing my incident. Not all man are like that, but It made me wonder how to detect such man that I want.
Because as I said, some man are just faking love, respect and all that, until you believe it. Maybe it apply to woman too. So dating now a days really difficult.