Hi, posting on a throwaway account incase this finds certain people.

I'm 23F and my coworker is 22M. Quick context: We work very closely together and he is a genuinely lovely person and incredibly attractive. So of course I caught feelings for him. Our workplace doesn't explicitly have a workplace relationship policy (as far as I am aware). He has once stated to one of our other coworkers that he wouldn't date a coworker. We don't really talk to each other outside of work and we very rarely touch each other, occasionally we've hugged but only like once or twice. Onto the story:

A couple nights ago, we were staying in the city at a hotel together because we both were at a party and didn't want to catch public transport all the way home at night. He booked a hotel a couple days prior to the party, the room had a queen bed and a couch, he said he would take the couch. On the day of the party when we met at the hotel, he said that the hotel had upgraded our room to a room with only a king single bed. No couch. I said it was fine and we headed to the party. The party was great, nothing out of the norm. He did keep on bringing up the fact that the hotel upgraded our room without letting him know first, the WHOLE night which I thought was a little weird.

Fast forward to after the party when we both were at the hotel in bed. Eventually we both ended up cuddling, full on cuddling. Legs intwined, arms wrapped around cuddling. He was playing with my hair and massaging my head. I drifted in and out of sleep the whole night and I'm pretty sure at one point he kissed my forehead. That night was the best sleep I've had ever had in a LONG time.

But in the morning and the whole ride home, he acted like nothing unusual happened. He went back to keeping his distance from me. He didn't bring it up, didn't mention it. I'm very non confrontational and I don't like bringing up things unless someone brings it up first (yes, I know that's an issue. I'm working on it in therapy). I've got work tomorrow and I'm not sure how to act around him since then. I've talked to my other coworkers that I'm close to and they said that maybe he just wanted a cuddle buddy and that I shouldn't overthink things. Do I tell him how I feel and risk the workplace environment that we have or should I leave it and ignore the whole thing?

Would love any and all advice, thanks.

TL;DR coworker and I cuddled all night long now I don’t know whether to tell him how I feel or not


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