Hi everyone,
I (24F) have been with my boyfriend since 8th grade. We’re each other’s first and only, and we’ve basically grown up together. Things have always been good between us we’ve talked about getting engaged soon, and honestly I’ve always pictured us ending up together.
But recently he brought up wanting to have a threesome… with another girl. I tried to play it cool at first, but the truth is it really hurt my feelings. I know he probably didn’t mean it that way, but hearing him say it out loud made me feel like maybe I’m not enough.
At the same time, I’d be lying if I said I never thought about being with another guy. We’ve only ever been with each other, so part of me gets the curiosity. I was actually planning to bring up the idea of giving him a “hall pass” for a weekend not because I want him to go sleep around, but to see if that’s really something he wants or if it’s just fantasy talk.
Now I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to talk it out with him honestly, but another part of me is scared that opening that door could ruin everything we’ve built.
Has anyone else been through this kind of situation? How do you even talk about it without it turning into resentment or guilt?
TL;DR:
Together since 8th grade, now 24. He wants a threesome, I’m hurt but also curious. I was thinking of offering a hall pass to see if that’s what he really wants.