I have a problem with people pleasing. I can’t say no to my wife. And it affects our economy because she never stops shopping.
She is getting evaluated for adhd and autism. Maybe that’s it I don’t know.
She wants to buy a dog. We already have one. When she bought it she knew I didn’t want a dog but bought it anyways. I have grown to love the dog even though she promised she would take care of him and I have ended up doing it.
And now she wants one again. She kept sending me reels about the importance for dogs to not be alone. We leave our dog for work but make sure to come back for lunch to walk him. But now that she got the idea she decided to contact someone who is giving up their dog for adoption for money of course. She started to tell the kids and then wanted me to say yes.
The kids were all happy. I just keep thinking about all the work it is. We already have 3 kids and they have special needs.
She used sex to try to convince me. And it does work because I am horny but it doesn’t feel right. Honestly I don’t even feel like having sex now. But if I say no to her buying it she doesn’t give up and I give in.
Plus because of my transgressions with porn that has hurt her I dot know if I have a right to say no. But I just feel that this all adds stress that is a trigger for my porn use.
I feel lost and stressed. I know she doesn’t have much respect for my opinion and maybe rightly so but still. Do I have a say. We both work but are trying to pay off debt which she has accumulated with her shopping