My husband and I (both 23) have been together and living together for 3.5 years, married recently. For context and short version, my MIL lived with us until a few months ago that she got remarried. She and I split house chores with her now-husband that would come over to help as well. Around the time she left, I lost my job and my husband and I decided I could just be a SAHS since he made a lot more now, and I could keep my side gig going that I've had for a bit to gain a bit of extra "fun money."
I have been trying to adjust ever since she moved out. I am partially disabled, and I set up a schedule to clean, do laundry, meal prep, and shop on certain days. But I can't keep up with the cleaning! MIL was a beast, in the best way possible. She does have a cleaning OCD and had a cleaning/organizing standard. I come from hoarders, so this cleanliness was baffling and amazing to me. Now that she's gone I'm struggling on my own and my husband is getting frustrated that the house doesn't look like before. I feel horrible, he works 40hrs and I don't want him to worry about how clean the house is when he gets home. He doesn't help cleaning, and I don't expect him to, but I can't seem to keep up, especially with my illness getting worse. We don't even have kids and I'm struggling!! I've considered leaving my side gig which makes me really sad but I might have to do it so I can keep up with the housework. I don't know I've been trying to adjust but there's always something wrong, typically it's with the mess that happens when I'm working on a project to sell. Can some of you share your schedule? I know everyone is different but I just want to reflect on how I can modify mine to better fit us.