TL;DR started dating with my now fiancee 1,5 years ago. I had cat allergy, she had young cat.
Basically, the title. But it’s very very complicated – we started dating, clicked instantly, she already had a 1 yo cat. I also have quite strong egzema. In the first month or two we had a lot of discussions on what we can do and decided we need to try to live with cat – we lived 10 months and allergy was not severe, neither the egzema. After it got worse, we decided to temporarily give cat to mother so that we can see how it goes without. And apparently, it’s much better. So we came back to question again – what if we need to give up the kitty?:(((( (to mother). And my fiancee had a change of heart i.e. that I programme myself to bad, that I dont want to continue trying.
To be fair, I can and I want, but what triggers me the most is that she ignores the apparent possibility that I would not be able to make it. It’s my health. And the idea that she would be able to end relationship, where we are engaged, want a baby etc., because of this.
Im so lost, we argue a lot. What would you advise?