I (20F) am in college and have been with my boyfriend (20M) since our freshman year. When we started dating, I didn't have any friends in college, I'm a pretty introverted person, so I naturally became friends with his group (three people: let's call them Ani (M), Ana (F), and Ane (M) and others too but these are main).
From the beginning, Ana was never really warm toward me, she was friendly on the surface but often made little digs or ignored me. Ani and Adi were nicer, and Ani and I became good friends. Later, Ani and Ana started dating.
During our second year, my boyfriend got moved to a different section, but the rest of us stayed together.
Over time, things changed. They started acting cold toward me, doing things like not marking me present if I was slightly late (she's our CR), not informing me about class updates, and generally ignoring me. I tried to brush it off. Then, they did something hurtful once and never apologized.
Later, I reacted in a similar way once, and suddenly everyone turned against me. Ana played victim, Ani immediately took her side, and we had a big fight.
Now here's the issue: After that, I distanced myself from them, but my boyfriend still talks to them, chats, hangs out, and goes out with them. It makes me feel hurt and confused.
These people have made things uncomfortable for me, but he acts like nothing happened.
I don't want to control who he talks to. I just feel…
disappointed? Because when Ana fights with someone, her boyfriend Ani immediately takes her side. But mine seems to choose the "neutral" path every time, even when it's clear I was the one who got treated unfairly.
I don't want him to fight my battles, but by at least setting a boundary with people who've clearly disrespected me.
I want him to stood by me instead of becoming a neutral person.
And I can't shrugg if off when he acts all normal with them even when I'm there.
How do I bring it up? Or is it really needed to bring up?