Been dating this girl for 3 months we met on one of the dating apps. Came time to ask where this is going, the anxiety of it was eating me… I felt like a 10 year old school boy. The wording, what should I say, how do I say it, argh it’s horrible. Anyway she reciprocated, I hope I never have to do that again.
This post has no significance really. It’s just me venting the awkwardness of having the exclusive/relationship talk (whatever you call it) in your 30s.
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Dude the relief when they actually want the same thing is unmatched tho. I swear I rehearsed that conversation like 50 times in my head and still managed to stumble through it like an idiot
As a girl we are equally nervous about bringing it up or waiting for the guy to bring it up!
Proud of you dude 👏
I’m 42 and she’s 32 and I couldn’t believe how anxious I was about it. I hadn’t had to have that talk in 12 years so I forgot it was even a thing until I realized, man, we are spending a shit load of time together and fucking like rabbits… I think we should talk about future stuff. Then its like, how do you word it? When is the place to say the things?
I couldn’t help but say it after we had a long session in bed and were snuggling, just felt easiest then. Just telling her I’m falling for her and see a future. She snuggled harder and gave an “mmhmm” but nothing clear. Then a week later, same situation, she says “I want you to be my boyfriend”
its honestly so fun to get through that part. But yea, grown man with career and kids and felt like I was a teenager.
Mid 20s and it’s the same. It feels like I’m 13 again wondering all day whether he likes me, likes me not 😩