I and my husband are both teachers. Being a teacher, I don't only work at school but also at home as I have to prepare materials, exams and evaluate them etc. When I come home, I have to cook (he hates vegetables and I cook meat everyday, the kind of meals u'd have at a restaurant) and wash the dishes, and on the weekends I do the cleaning. He sometimes helps with the dishes, but most of the household chore is on me. I could be okay with it because cooking is actually my hobby but when it becomes a responsible with all the other responsibilities I have got, it becomes tiring.
When we got to our house, we decided sleeping in different beds could be a better choice as his sleep is very light. We also have different work schedules so we go to sleep and wake up at different times. From my husband, I see nothing romantic, no compliments, no gifts, no cuddles. The only time he cuddles me is when he wants to have sex, which causes me to have no desire at all…
Since he's better at economy and finances, I send some of my income to him for him to make savings. I am okay with it. But sometimes it becomes very controlling like when he wants to control what I got the credit card debit (which is not at all high) from and what I bought… or when he complains about how we spend money on groceries and meat but how could I possibly cook without them?
To be honest, I don't feel like someone's wife, I don't even feel like a woman, I feel like a robot who always has something to do. When I have time off, I spend it going out with my girl friends or playing video games as that's the only thing that feels a little better. But I cannot ignore how we already have nothing joyful left tho it's been only a few months since we got married. I don't know what to do, and I don't know if I am making things up in my head and creating problems. I also feel guilty about not being that into having sex anymore, but I just know that I don't at all feel fine so it seems understandable to me. Could you guys maybe show me a way as someone objective?