My wife (26f) recently admitted she cheated on me (25m) with her ex. So my wife and i have been together for over 5 years now and we have an almost 3 year old. We have always had really good communication and kept nothing to ourselves. Recently she went to a concert and her ex was in town and asked if i would mind if she took him as i was staying home looking after our daughter. I didnt mind as he was an ex from around 10 years ago and i thought i could trust her. I also helped pay for her hotel as she wanted to have a night out and she deserves it. A few days after the concert she admitted to him confessing his love and they made out for 3+ minutes and he took her shirt off, he than said she will regret this so they stopped but she admitted that she probably would of went all the way. Some backstory also this isnt the first time she has been unfaithful as a few years ago she told me someone close to her offered her money for nudes and as we were not in the best financial situation she sent them. I forgave her as we just had our daughter but it took me awhile to get over it. I just dont know what to do. I have moved to my mums for the time being but she is upset with me how fast i uped and left but it was purely in panic. I do love her with all my being and she is the best thing to ever happen to me i just cant seem to get the image of her making out half naked in a hotel room with another man. Just seeking advice on what others think about my situation. I might add also that recently our relationship hasnt been all sparks and rainbows as we both work full time and once we get home we just focus on our daughter so we rarely get date nights or alot of us time.
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Get a divorce lawyer.
Trust has been broken. She was with someone else. She didn’t think about you or your child. She knew what she was doing. It’s time to see a divorce lawyer. You can’t come back from this.
She fucked him. There’s literally no way she stopped at her shirt being off.
“they made out for 3+ minutes and he took her shirt off, he than said she will regret this so they stopped ” – if you actually believe this, i have some magic beans to sell you.
She’s a serial cheater, OP. If you stay, it’s only a matter of time until she cheats on you again. Save your love for someone who deserves it.
BTW: Sometimes people feel guilty enough to confess, but not so guilty that they tell you how far it really went.
At least youre still fairly young, id be done with that. Best wishes xxx
This isn’t even a real marriage no one’s wife is going to a concert with their ex. Either your wife doesn’t respect you or this is a troll.
Turn her into your ex wife.
THE ONLY ADVICE YOU NEED:
Stay calm, don’t over react with emotions and contact a divorce attorney. ALSO if you can, try your BEST to have an audio clip of her admitting to any of this.
Whatever story she spits out, just listen to it, acknowledge it but know SHE CHEATED BTW. But don’t blow up.
Your case isn’t new, it’s happened many times. This will make your divorce go easy as hell, please just listen to us.
Your wife doesn’t love you, she doesn’t want to mess up what she thinks she has. Take it slow, collect evidence of what she says, and let your divorce attorney save you.
The lawyer will save you A SHIT TON of time here if you’re level headed
She’s upset you left so quickly?! That’s all she’s gotten out of the situation? She broke the relationship. Of course you’re going to leave.
They didn’t stop at making out. They had sex. She’s a liar and cheater. Get a good divorce lawyer.
Adults don’t just make out when they have a hotel room available. Since you forgave your wife the first time, she feels entitled to it again and is shocked you didn’t extend it automatically as a matter of course. If you decide to pursue reconciliation, then the burden needs to be all on your wife to find a way rebuild trust. Do not make it easy for her. I have a bad feeling there was not much in the way of consequences the first time this happened.
Bro, u fucked up when you said she could go to a concert with her ex? Who tf asks to go to a concert with their ex when they’re married?
You’re 25…
Not to downplay what you’re going through because that crap is sure as hell heavy.
But you have lots of life ahead of you. Lots of time to find a much better than this. Lots of room to play with, can easily hit the reset button and find better.
Do you want to go down as the guy who has a cheating wife?
Or do you want to go down as the guy who has an ex wife, dumped her ass for cheating, searched for better and found a new wife who loves you and stayed loyal the entire time? The guy who *had* a cheater wife but served her with papers proudly and found better in the end.
Go for the second option.
There is only misery left for you in this marriage.
End it.
You’ll become the sucker if you stay.
Sorry but divorce. She’s a very shitty person. She did something bad and she is upset with you because of how you reacted ??? Disgusting.
You CANNOT believe a dude EX at that undresses your woman in a motel room then says ‘you will regret this’ and STOPS? Seriously dude wake up!
Me personally? Couldn’t take that, they made you pay for a hotel room so the could drunk fuck after the concert, ofc she didn’t stop at kissing, but I guess if you could live with that you should stay and work it out, for the kids ya know
They had sex. She said they only kissed to see how you’d react and absolve some guilt. Leave her.
Did he also took his pants off? What about the condom? Did he take it off as well?
Come on OP, two adults don’t go in a hotel room to make out for 3 minutes …
Best thing that ever happened to you, really dude? You must have had a lot of really shitty things happening to you if that’s the best thing that’s ever happened to you. Lol
“*My wife took her ex to a concert while I stayed home to look after our daughter. I paid for her hotel*”
🤡👈That’s you right now bro
“He confessed his love for her and they made out for 3+ minutes and he took her shirt off, he then said she will regret this so they stopped.”
If you believe this bullshit then I would like to sell you some beautiful oceanfront property in Ohio. I can get you a good deal but you have to act fast.
This is called trickle truthing. The more you press, the more the truth will come out: they only kissed > he fingered her > she gave him a blowjob but no sex > ok they had sex but he used a condom, etc. see how this works?
Also two adults who were probably drinking at the concert and have sexual history, along with a hotel bed ready and waiting do not just kiss. Throw in the fact she didn’t even have to come home and had all night with him. I don’t like kicking a man when he’s down so I’ll just stop here because I’m sure you get my point.
It’s good you left but you need to meet with a lawyer asap and examine your options. Follow your lawyers instructions to the letter and prepare to protect yourself and your child in the future.
I just gotta ask tho…instead of *paying for her hotel room* wouldn’t it have made more sense to hire a sitter for your child so you and your wife could finally have one of your rare date nights?
She premeditated this affair start to finish 100%
– Consult a divorce lawyer.
– Get a paternity test on the child.
– Get yourself tested for STDs.
Your wife went on that trip fully intending on sleeping with her ex, and she had the audacity of having you pay so that she could cheat on you! Go full nuclear on this marriage, op!!
Sorry, man, she knows you’ll always forgive her. She won’t stop disrespecting you and your relationship.
Wait… you told your wife to go to a concert with her ex AND paid for a hotel room? Dude…
Man… LEAVE HER! It will only get worse from here. Once she realizes there’s no repercussions and you will tolerate anything, she’s going to be banging dudes any time she wants. Not only that but she’s going to have zero respect for you. Less than she currently does.
Can’t make a ho a housewife.