I (30s M) have been dating 30s F for a couple of months now. We met on OLD and clicked right away. We've seen each other a handful of times. She's amazing and is a gem of a person and partner. I really like her and see a long-term future with her. Our values line up great. I'm very attracted to her and want to be all over her.
Things were going great, but some things have come up for her that are occupying a great deal of her energy (has generalized anxiety disorder). When I checked in after our last date to tell her how positively I feel about us, she only said that she likes me a lot too and her current wave of feelings are clouding whatever she feels for me. That kind of bummed me out. But, she kept reassuring me that I'm great, she values me, and I have great qualities. She's also been texting and engaging and being flirty.
So, I'm in a bit of a limbo here. I feel off because I put my heart on the line and wasn't met with much. So, I don't even know how she really feels about me (is she attracted to me, does she feel as strongly, etc.). I know, I know that I should just ask her. But, I've truly tried and get met with the same response about clouded feelings. But, she still keeps engaging while I feel like our relationship has regressed a little. If we can't talk about us and our feelings, what's the point in all this superficial talk.
So, I want to know when does one decide it's enough, cut their losses, and move on from a budding relationship? Part of me feels conflicted. I want to make it work because relationships with people that are worth it require work. But, there's a balance too.
UPDATE: I took the advice from some of the kind folks here to suggest that we talk. She said we should. I asked if she wants to end the relationship and she said yes. We'll talk more later, but the outcome is clear. Thanks for all your advice.