What is the difference between.."Oh this has some cool board games, he is fun, cultured, not a sports-bro, lets play some games, have a game night, etc" to "This guy is a man-child with a creepy obsession with board games.." ? In other words, if you walked into a guys place how many games would be cool, and how many games would you start wondering whats wrong with this bro? I'm asking for a friend š
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I would never think someone was creepy whether they owned one board game or a thousand board games šš. I would just be like āwoah thatās a lot curious to see how many we can play in a span of like a monthā or whatever
What kind of man enjoys board games?? He should have a normal obsession like gambling or alcohol abuse.
I see your boardgame collection, and raise you a MTG( magic the Gathering) and Hotwheel collection!
First I want to say the right person won’t care. But I would recommend just letting them know and talking about your interest in conversation if it naturally comes up (this is kinda funny because I’m dating a guy that loves board games). Honestly there are way worse/even nerdier things to have collections of and show to a date. So as a woman I’d say board games as a collection are not a big deal. As long as it doesn’t look like you are just a hoarder or disorganized with them it shouldn’t be a big deal how many you have.Ā
Iād care more how the games were stored. Children toss things in a closet, messy and disorganized. A responsible adult keeps his things nicely displayed.
Sounds cool to me. I like seeing people have passions and things they enjoy.
The difference will be whether or not it’s the right person. š
The limit does not exist but I also have an extensive board game collection
I think the friend asking this is a red flag for the guy and he should run away from them.
I would imagine if they were displayed as some sort of weird collection/obsession: red flag
A shelf / a few shelves with various games not prominently displayed but readily accessible: probably totally fine
I always wonder if women see my collections and they’re like wtf is wrong with this guy. Nothing weird per se….vinyl records, movies/shows, sports stuff, some books, etc.
I (29F) like board games. So to quote Mean Girls, the number of board games that is too many is āthe limit does not existā. But make sure theyāre clean and organized and not a disaster.
IMO heād be a keeper for having that (assuming he is a nice person of course!). I struggle to find the nerdy guys where I am! I have a storage unit full of Lego, and multiple pin boards on my walls, so I cannot judge
God forbid a man has a hobby
I love the idea of a man having board games.
This is entirely a non-issue unless he immediately and desperately tries to force you to play something (in which case, having one or one hundred games wouldn’t make a difference).
Unless he makes it his whole personality, no harm there!
If thereās nowhere to sit, thatās a problem. It makes me think, āThis guy isnāt out at bars or clubs every weekend.ā Or that he has kids.
10 I wouldn’t bat an eye, not even a collector until like 30. 100+ I’d be aware that this is likely more important to him that I ever will be BUT I dont think that would dissuade me. I just consider Ive been put on notice š
I wouldnāt think of that as a creepy obsession. Itās actually cool~ we can play all day!
I guess it depends on whether it’s Candyland-style games or Boggle/Taboo/Risk/Clue-style games. If it’s all games for the 5 and under crowd, that could be creepy, but I don’t think I’d even flinch at under 100 adult board games. (Edit: by adult games, I mean not intended just for littles. So I added better examples.)
I donāt think Iād ever think board games would be considered creepy unless itās decorated a certain way like hentai or something Iād feel gross about taking to family game night.
I might view it as odd if he himself didnāt have any friends and literally never played any board games (thereās obviously a distinction between collecting because you love playing them and collecting because theyāre valuable/vintage).
But otherwise Iād assume heās a fun guy with lots of friends or family who also apparently makes decent money since board games can be a bit pricey.
I think the real question that you should be asking, is why would you have a problem with this simply because it’s board games? And would you find it acceptable if it was sports, memorabilia, movies, or something else?
At least he is collecting something that involves direct interaction with the people around him, rather than all sitting together staring at something else with only occasional interaction.
I’m in the opposite situation where my girlfriend wants to show me HER board game collection.
People are right, the right person wonāt care. But to give you a good faith answer: to me it would matter way more how he presented and talked about the board games. I, a woman, have a massive superhero dvd collection thatās on display, and I love them but theyāre only a part of who I am as opposed to something I keep on my mantel, form my personality around, and force every guest to interact with or listen to me rant about. Your board game collection is probably cool, fun, and interesting, so to me what draws the line between āpassionate hobbyā and ācreepy man-childā is having it be a part of what makes you, you, as opposed to having it dominate every conversation and interaction. But donāt hide or change who you are; if youāre a board game guy you will find the right board game girl. This advice comes from the place of feeling like you donāt necessarily want a board game girl, and donāt want to present like thatās all you are, either.
Depends Is it like 20-40 stashed neatly in a closet Maybe a few tucked neatly away in the living away Or are they set up and ready to go All over the house Like 80 of them ! Weāre going to need to know
Thatās like a crazy healthy hobby go with it
Not a lady, but a gay dude (close enough). The difference is how they function in other areas of life. That stuff can be endearing, but if it eats up the other areas of their life, personality, time, etc … it’s a bit too much for me. Who knows, maybe you’d have a lot of nice nights playing interesting games in your future?
If someone has a ton of anything it tells me they might have some impulse control issues. Like if I went to a girl’s place and she had a wall of shoes I’d be like, “ok she can’t possibly wear all those shoes, we may have different values around money”.
Same goes for board games.
That said, board games are big. A massive bookshelf of board games is like the equivalent of collecting a midsize bookshelf of books, which no one bats an eye at.
Do you see what I’m getting at?
Different people enjoy collecting different things, just make sure he’s not a compulsive spender who throws his money away.
Whenever I meet someone who has a lot of board games, I can’t help but assume they are a fun and social person since you can’t play most alone or even with just 2 people.
Thinking about it, a board game collection is actually a very weird and specific green flag for me.
I donāt think there is a limit lol. Iād be thrilled because I also have over a dozen different board games in my house that no one ever wants to play. lol.
Having a collection is great, but when it dominates his personality (and his living space) it becomes a problem.
I would think it was kinda cool, I like games too. but I’m kinda weird.
How large is the collection and how obsessed with it is he?
If it’s his entire personality….very odd, I think I’ll hold off until I figure out a whole to see if he’s just a bit over the top or massively weird.
But just loves board games? Fabulous. As long as that’s not all he expects to do every time we get together
Your friend needs to get over herself. God forbid a man have a hobby
Edit: unless you’re asking on behalf of the friend who owns all the board games, in which case whoever it is that cares needs to get over themselves.
I love board games and host board game nights, so I would be thrilled to see a lot of them. I love looking at pplās books and games and stuff
I wouldnāt be creeped out at all. But it would be a turn off for me for personal reasons. Iām not a big board game person myself and (sorry, I know this probably isnāt fair but) every guy who Iāve hung out with who is a Board Game Guy has been one of those guys who really likes to hear himself talk. Sorry. You may be the exception!
Convoluted board games are just never fun for me. Now if weāre talking Baulderdash or Pictionary or Tripoli type games, Iām in. But games like Secret Hitler or whatever? Not my bag. I can follow along fine, but thereās about a million things Iād rather do. A guy with like over ten of these kinds of games would probably not be a match for me.
Personally, Iād rather show me his board game collection than his bedroom. Also, itās great he has an interest even though I wouldnāt be interested in board games.
A couple tidy shelves and social energy are green flags, a wall of shrink wrap and a rules lecture are nope.
Itās not the number of board games. Evaluate him by his behavior. Like if heās someone thatās neglected all aspects of his life and expects you to take care of it vs a guy that has his shit together and respects you as an equal. Itās not the board game that is the deciding factor; itās the behavior.
I also have a few board games, not the standard ones, but rather connoisseur and expert games (usually with countless expansions, so that a game can sometimes take a whole day)
Are board games bad now?? Iām good with walls of games if theyāre organized!
It depends on how big of a nerd she is. I’d love it and appreciate the cultivated collection.. and probably compare it to a friend’s that has probably 2000 games.
If she’s not into board games, her opinion is wrong and you should dump her butt on the spot
Board game and self-subscribed nerd here: as soon as you start collecting you start realizing that you don’t have as many opportunities to use them as you do a variety of them.
Somebody that has a lot of board games that has a lot of meetups : highly effective.
Somebody that has a lot of games but is trying to put scenes together: needs more friends.
Somebody that has a lot of friends and not a lot of games : interests are in other activities and/or doesn’t know about board games.
You can find yourself playing into any of these situations and it’s always constructive š