Hi, I (f/22) recently had a tough conversation with my girlfriend (f/26), and I honestly don’t know what to do next.
I sent her a long message explaining that I’ve been feeling drained in our relationship. I told her I still love her, but sometimes I feel like I can’t be myself around her because I’m always scared of making her mad. I also mentioned that she tends to compare me to her ex, and it hurts.
Her response really hurt me. She said things like:
“You’re just like the others.”
“Go, leave me then. I don’t care anymore.”
“You’re immature, you’ll realize I’m right in the future.Youre still a child”
Instead of listening, she turned everything into my fault and made me feel guilty for feeling tired.
Now I don’t even know if I should try to fix this or just take a step back. I still care about her, but it’s exhausting feeling like the bad guy every time I express my feelings.
What should I do? How do I handle someone who keeps guilt-tripping or turning things around when I try to talk calmly?
TL;DR
I (22F) told my girlfriend (26F) that I’m tired of feeling like I can’t be myself and that she often compares me to her ex. Instead of understanding, she guilt-tripped me, called me immature, and made me feel worse. I still care, but I’m exhausted and don’t know what to do next.