When you still miss your ex and you're dating someone new, it's NOT fair for the new person that you're currently seeing. In fact, it's a selfish thing for you to do on your end.
Whenever I'm dating a new guy and he tells me that he misses his ex (or exes), I straight up tell him that he shouldn't be dating, and then I stop seeing him again.
Because I know I will never be number ONE to him.
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But they do anyway, and we get caught in the crossfire.
This is one reason why I’m very cautious when dating.
Ya true, this girl I am talking with, she tell me about her ex. When this talk comes I just nod. She keep teasing me. When she gets at the stage of disrespecting me, I just stop talking to her and texting her. Then she will call me, why I am not talking to her like that stuff. Then again she go out with him. I cut her out. She comes again telling why I am avoiding her. I don’t understand.
Are you a teenager or something???
I agree that they shouldn’t be the ones bringing up an ex, however if you asked would you prefer that they lie to you?
The concept of missing someone that’s no longer in your life is something everyone goes through, even if you separated under unfavorable circumstances. If someone you once loved is no longer with you, then it’s not a bad thing if you miss them because the thing you miss often isn’t the person but the feeling the good memories gave you.
I highly suggest you grow up/live life a bit more, or if you are an adult please do some self reflection. Sadly that level of priority that you seem to desire is often reserved for spouses and children.
There is an important distinction which needs to be made here:
It is between someone who is “missing” an ex and someone who is “emotionally unavailable” due to ongoing attachment to their ex.
Yeup. People shouldn’t do a lot of things that they do all the time 😐
She passed away…. I’ll always miss her. Doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be allowed new love.
Ive never really dealt with the issue of anyone missing their ex as much as ive dealt with women that can’t get over what their ex did to them.
Trust me I thought the same. I However…:. then I realized that have to get back out there. New experiences is part of how we move on.
We just need to not get attached before we know if people are available. Also, all of my girlfriends got remarried a year after they got divorced. I’ve been single five years. I waited two years to date.
Some people didn’t have nasty ends to their relationships which may be a reason why so, If you miss your ex, never mention it
Don’t date people with ex drama. You will be that much happier.
I don’t miss my ex in a sense I’d get back together with her, but do I look back at memories and miss them and smile ? Yes. It took me , 5 years to finally be able to look at a photo of her and not find her attractive anymore. But we were also together for 13 years.
I learnt that the hard way.
I met this girl and we soon started dating. She seemed nice at first, but when I checked her TikTok reposts, they were full of anecdotes about exes, which were as bad as they could get. The reposts were very recent, the most recent one having been made barely two weeks before we started dating.
Had I seen the reposts before we started dating, I 100% would not have dated her but as a mature person, I had a conversation with her about the reposts, and she assured me that she was over the ex and that she was going to delete the reposts, and I believed her (btw she did not delete them).
I have a weakness for seeing the best in people, so I let it slide.
Fast forward, barely a week later, this ex sent me dm request using a pseudo account, and he was basically telling me to check my girlfriend’s Snapchat on the “for my eyes only” section. On the same day I got the dm, my girl was conspicuously offline for over 5 hours, which was not normal for her.
Anyway, I was meeting her the next day, and of course, I showed her the dm and demanded to see her Snapchat. It was a bunch of videos of her and her ex, mostly just kissing. I could tell they were from before we started dating, but still, I felt betrayed.
I guess she told her sister to talk to the ex to stop meddling or something because that’s what she told me she’d do, but 2 weeks later, she was following the ex on tiktok when she was supposed to have blocked him, according to her. I confronted her again, and she bullshitted her way out of trouble, and I guess she unfollowed him or something.
My patience ran its course, and I finally put the pieces together and concluded that on the same day the ex sent me the dm, the 2 of them were together, and the dm was a victory lap.
In response, I disappeared.
I did not explain anything to anyone. I simply became a ghost and walked with the lessons learnt.
People are moving strangely and doing clown shit with their exes. Be careful, guys.