I’ve was dating this guy for two months. We were exclusive and agreed we wanted it to become serious eventually. Then he said he didn’t want a serious relationship right now, that he “liked but didn’t love” me, etc. We kind of agreed to be FWB, but the next day I realized it wasn’t good for me and broke up. Admittedly in a mean and harsh way.
We didn’t speak for two weeks. We tried to meet up but ended up arguing again. Eventually, we met twice. The second time felt like one of those weird experiences where you act like newlyweds: tender, affectionate, basically playing a relationship without actually having one. I felt that dynamic wasn’t right, so I ended things again.
A week and a half later, we randomly ran into each other on the street. I suggested meeting up, and he said we needed to decide what we wanted from each other.
We saw each other yesterday. He confirmed he didn’t want a relationship, only that he liked me, enjoyed spending time with me, and liked doing things together. Also, our sexual chemistry is off the charts. During the conversation, he accused me of not knowing what I want from him. I admitted that I might act chaotic when I feel scared, vulnerable, or uncertain.
At some point, we told each other how many people we had slept with in the meantime. I said 3, he said 8. That’s when he blew up. He said he didn’t want to share, accused me of dumping him repeatedly, leaving and coming back, treating him like plan B, using him for easy sex, etc. When I pointed out that he slept with eight other people, he said, “Well, you broke up with me.” He said he felt neglected and didn’t want to keep dating me.
The morning after, I asked if he meant he never wanted to talk to me or see me again, and he replied, “No, that’s not what I said, just give me time.”
I can’t wrap my head around his reaction. I wasn’t happy hearing about his affairs, but it didn’t really hurt me. He insists he doesn’t have feelings, only likes spending time with me and then reacts this way. What’s going on with him?