We got married less than six months ago, we moved away from the city 3 years ago and ever since we did I’ve been miserable and I’ve felt so isolated living miles away from everything.
In the time I’ve been up here I feel like I’ve lost my identity, my independence and myself. I’m at a point where I want to build opportunities, put myself out there and build a social life but there’s no chance for that where we are.
We’ve built up this beautiful home and done so much to it. My husband feels like we’re just giving up and he is frustrated at the situation that we may have to move back down to the city to improve the situation. He keeps saying that he is sick and tired of seeing me miserable and that he’s had enough, even though I don’t say anything to him. He just sees it on my face.
I’ve also noticed some misalignment in a few areas of our relationship which I’ve addressed with him and we agreed to work on. I also believe the age gap has put us at different points in our life.
Long story short, we had an argument earlier today and he began criticising me and the fact that I apparently never “get things done”, so I started reaching out to some people related to what he was talking about and when I snapped at him and said “I’m making things happen because you say I never do anything”.
After that he said “I think I’m done now. I’m done”. He kept saying it and then when I asked him if he meant he was done with us, he said he didn’t know. So he has left me in limbo where I have NO IDEA what he meant or if my life is about to go up in smoke.
I just feel very lost at the moment and it feels ridiculous to let go of 10 years of a relationship and marriage because of this.