Many young people (including my age group), do that thing where they rate people’s attractiveness out of ten. Talking about stuff like “you can’t expect to pull a 9 when you’re a 6” or whatever, just an example. To me, It’s just so weird, objectifying and kind of unrelatable. I never thought of people in the context of numbers, either I’m attracted to them or I’m not. Period.
Might also be because I’m autistic though. Does anyone else not like this rating thing despite it being so common?


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  1. oh also, reminds me of that guy I hooked up with who afterwards during casual conversation told me he only slept with two 10/10s in his life (me obviously not included), and it permanently grossed me out. people are so damn weird

  2. Yeah it is gross. I never think like that because it’s so subjective. Sometimes a friend will think someone is the hottest person ever and I just don’t see it, and vice versa. It’s silly and shallow imo!!!

  3. To me it sounds unrealistic to not be able to judge for yourself the level of attraction you feel based on someones appearance.

    You may not like it, and sure it may be objectifying, but there’s (to me) no denying that one person can be more physically attractive than another person, while both are attractive. The moment I learn of a different quantifier to express that delta, I’ll start using that.

    Now, all of that aside – I never really say that someone was 7/10 or whatever, that’s cringe. But just thinking out loud about it, I can’t really think of an alternative given two attractive people, where one invokes a stronger attraction than the other.

  4. That’s an understandable ick. Objectifying human beings with insecurities and inner worlds and sensitivities, etc, and putting them on a number scale feels only marginally different to me than a USDA inspector grading cuts of beef. It’s gross. 

    Yes, we all objectify people in certain ways, human beings focus on physical characteristics, people are to an inherent degree transactional and like being around pretty people, etc – but amplifying or encouraging that feels even worse. 

  5. The sad part is true attraction and loving relationships are grown. It’s the quick attractions and relationships you should be the most wary of!

  6. I think it’s lame and gross to talk about seriously.

    That said, I think there’s some objective truth to “levels” of attractiveness being a thing, but I see it as totally separate from whether or not I’m attracted to someone. Like, there’s a difference between someone having a physically attractive face or body vs. being an attractive person. Someone who’s generally considered 10/10 or whatever may be “hot”, but if I’m on a date with her and she sits quietly the whole time expecting me to entertain her without contributing then I doubt I’d be able to make that work even as a ons.

    I see this often on the apps. Gorgeous face, sexy body, some shared interests with me….. aaaaand the bio is just “make me laugh”. Instant swipe left. Nothing deflates my loins more than demanding that I be her jester, no matter how “hot” they are.

  7. I think beauty is subjective for everyone but that only applies to a person who doesn’t like an alien or something, I’m talking almost any person over 350 pounds and so on(and yes, you don’t get to make exceptions even if a person is your close one)

  9. I’ve seen extremely handsome men who I didn’t find attractive. Does that make them a 10 or a 0?

  10. No, that’s not weird at all. Just how it is not weird at all that other people rate attractiveness on a scale of 1/10.

    You have every right to feel the “ick” and even distance yourself from those who make you feel said “ick.” That said, they also have the right to express themselves.

    We humans do not agree on everything, and it is up to us to decide when to move away from some people, try to understand their thought process, or find common ground while establishing our boundaries.

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