THIS IS LONG BUT I NEED HELP ASAP i want to talk with him tmr afternoon about all these events seriously and i need a fresh perspective! do we take a break? HELP

i (20F) and my bf (22M) of 7 months have been having sm disagreements lately, what should i do for him to start being more caring about me and stop doing these things? ive been thinking more and more about taking a break recently, but we are the perfect match on paper for each other. we have literally everything in common, we made a list of over 250+ things we have found we have in common. we have great chemistry, amazing sex, great balance with life and each other. we live 5 mins away and see each other everyday!

anyways i love him but so often recently we have been having bad days. here r some instances
– fyi, we have sex OFTEN more than 5 times a week. when he hasnt gotten any in a few days and im already upset because of one of the below reasons, he asks me “are u okay” a million times without asking me how we can fix it. doesnt comfort me in any way at all. he will then do things to turn me on, and persuade me to have sex basically w kisses and some hinting (asking that my shirt comes off for cuddles, etc.), then i relent ofc. has happened 3 times already

  • another fyi, 5 months into our relationship theres evidence even to suggest that he has finished from either sex or wtvr 100 times or more. and me? ZERO! hes tried a few things, only for a few mins tho, never asking me ab my pleasure or never rly caring ab it. i finally got the courage to say, when is it my turn? the excuse was that bcuz we have outdoor sex theres no comfortable place to do it to me (um?) a month goes by basically im always bringing it up and he still hasnt tried rly. then i threaten a little bit to take a break, then he starts to try. – its fine now tho but goddamn

  • i asked to come over (he said yes) after work, when an old guy friend from grade 5 said hi to me and talked to me for ab 10 mins. my bf got very jealous and left soon after i told him i saw this friend, saying his best friend’s ex would never carry a conversation for so long with another guy (like okay?!) i saw some friends after work and told my bf they will walk me to my bus stop so i can bus to him. i then miss my bus, oopsies but not my fault. he texts me WORD FOR WORD: “are you serious? im going to bed. im sat here waiting like a dumbass, ur being inconsiderate being w ur friends, ur a liar” UM?! THEN DOESNT TEXT ME GN (he never fails to usually!) doesnt text me for 3 hours, then at 2am says he hasnt slept all night?!

    • how he fixed this? the next day saying hes so mad at himself for saying this and that hes sorry but not such a serious apology idk…

  • whenever we have plans to go somewhere, its usually spontaneous and i take much longer to get ready than him (obv im a girl). i say i might need an hour or so, if i take any longer he gets REALLY impatient, and sometimes just leaves without me?! has happened min 10 times thus far… he called his friend “unreliable” bcuz plans would be cancelled (not the friends fault) and so i said “so that makes me unreliable then” HE DIDNT DENY IT HELLO?!

  • late at night at 9pm-2:30am i will bike home alone to my house from his, because him biking me home will make him open the garage door that will wake up his dad, so he cant do it. the one time i asked him to do it, he complained the way there that it was cold, and that he has to bike back too (takes 10 mins total!) then he asks “me not biking with you really made u that sad?”

  • told me hes never talked with any girls before me, but he INTENTIONALLY irl hid his phone when i was about to find evidence of him on tinder? turns out hes been on it for 2 years before me, DELETED IT BEFORE ME THO but he talked to sm girls, kissed one, etc. mostly seeking attention (his words)

  • in general, i cant explain it but i know he thinks hes better than me. whether that be because he thinks his family has a nicer house than mine, eats better, hes in better shape, has less chaos in his house so hes always free, cares more about brands of clothing?, etc.

  • doesnt rly wanna meet my parents? idk why? ive met his several times, a month into our relationship

  • i forgot why but one night we got into some kinda disagreement, then i went out all day and he didnt text me all day?! fyi we talk every second of every day

hes never been a relationship before but goddamn its not an excuse for all of these things! hes also an only child my friend says is obvious LOL

TL;DR: my bf has no patience, seems to think hes sm better than me, doesnt bike home with me late at night (it takes 10 mins), got mad at me for missing my bus to come see him later at night, took sm for him to realize he should pleasure me too (him 100+ times tho, me zero!), when im feeling bad and he knows it – he doesnt comfort me but if hes horny he will persuade me to have sex instead of fixing the issue


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