So a friend invited me to a quiz night last night with a group.
First interaction was them asking if i wanted to go to a quiz night with her and some other friends, I said yes if you send me the date and time and I'm around. I'm a fair bit younger than anyone else who was planning to go, only 2 blokes going (one me) and a number of women – but I've doen things with them a lot.
It's left, I dont hear anything.
A few weeks later I see them and 2 others from the group. It's asked who's going to the friend, my names mentioned, I say I haven't said yes yet as I don't know the date, they say the date, I say okay cool, thanks.
The day of the quiz – I see one of them that day and she says oh I'm looking forward tk going tk the quiz with you later etc. I say oh nice etc.
The friend says oh yes her 2 daughters are coming – then a few mins later I ask the time that evening. She says "we would ofc love to have you but I'm not sure if the 2 daughters are coming ….". The other friend sorta goes quiet and looks a bit awkward. She still wasn't sure if they were even going to go on the day of it. Initially only one was maybe coming and other was meant to be busy.
They go do something, I leave fairly quickly.
Then at 5pm, the thing is happening at 7:15. I've assumed I won't be going as I don't see why I should be kept on tender hooks if their family are going instead, it's restricted to 8 people per team. I get a message saying "daughters are coming and now this other ladies daughter is coming so we will make use of your brains next time". This other person was never going or expressed interest in going, I'd said yes so I'm a bit pissed off.
I havent replied to the above message and they sent something today and ive not bothered to respond. Am I being reasonable or am i being socially inept? I have been close friends with her and her family.
I replaced myself (got someone else to stand in) for another event that was organised with her now as I don't really feel that she's been reasonable by inviting and then uninviting. Aware this might be a dick move.