I 32f need help with my relationship with my husband (31m)
So, me and my then bf got married in 2023 , and at first I ignored the red flags but now it's taking a toll on my health.
I am a happy-go-lucky person, a laidback, who doesn't like to control everything but he seems to take control of everything in his life, and I don't even know what'sthe problemwith him, he continues to blame me for the silliest of reasons you could think of.
Like yesterday we went to market and I knew sort of thar his mood is not right, so I didn't speak to trigger him, and after shopping and everything, we had to take milk packets, now he grabbed the milk packet and saw the packaged date and expiry date, and asked me what s the date today? I said it's 25th maybe, and he again asked what? I said 25th maybe and checked my phone for the date but before I could speak he was gone to pick some other items, and I was chill all this time.
Now when we started walking towards home, he started blaming, I can work like this if you keep doing things like the way you do. I was like what did I do but I continued to listen to his blames.
I went back home and wanted to have alone time and don't have to deal with his blames, so I didn't talk to him, and then at night before sleeping he lashed out to me,and started talking about other things whichdoesnt have any relation to this issue he had, like how I didn't bring my eye drops the other day, or how I seem to relax and not do things according to him.
I am just sad and done, his behavior is always like this so unpredictable and always blaming me for the silliest of reasons, I don't know what to do.
I got high blood pressure ( 190/118) just by stressing over this relationship, and my doctor literally told me not to take stress but he seems not to stop.
I have told him everything how I feel, how he needs to communicate instead of blaming directly and other beheviour of him stressing me so much.
He says he is improving but it doesn't seem to help me. I always am stressed after every useless, tiny arguments explaining myself what was my intention and all. But it's too draining.
Please help me what to do, how to save this relationship?
TL;DR – my husband argues with me for the silliest of reasons, I am too stressed right now because of this doctor told me not to take stress andccommunication isnt working with him.